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03/02/06
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Do i love him or not?
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Dear V
I have been going out with a man 19 years older than me, for now 7 months without any of my friends or his friends knowing. We have reached a point where he wants to make it public that I am his girlfriend and wants to present me to his family. I am 23 and he is 42. I like him a lot, we go along quite well, but there is something that stops me from fully committing to this relationship. First of all I am scared of what my friends will think of this. Secondly I am really wondering if I am in love with this man. He has many qualities that I am looking for in a man, the only thing that bothers me is his age. He is tired of being in the in-between kind of relationship. So today he asked me to make a decision; to either plunge fully into the relationship or to end it. I do not know what to do. I am afraid to end this relationship because deep down I do like him a lot, he gives me a lot of attention and love and is always present for me and is very supportive and encouraging. And on the other hand, I do not know if I really love him. Actually I do not know what I am looking for. I am afraid to make the wrong decision and loose a great person. Please give me advice to help me clear this out.
Thank you. Lizy.
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Lizy
It's very obvious that you don't know what you want or how you really feel
about this man or this relationship. and it seems that the difference in
age is a real problem for you. Be true to yourself. Weigh the pros and
cons of this relationship before making a decision.
Why don't you take a break from this man, take time off for yourself to
think things over. See how you really feel, whether you miss him,
envision how life will be if you were to break up with him. Be brutally
honest. Don't make the decision to be with him just because he is good to
you & that you're afraid of being lonely. You need to be 101% sure that
you're in love with him & that you really do want to be with him. It's
not just one way. You need to be fair for the sake of both of you. No
point to be with someone if you are not gonna be happy or if you keep
having doubts about your feelings.
Good luck!
V
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