I have been broke up with my g/friend(of 2 yrs) for about 4 months now. She told me she wanted to be by herself,then she wants me to be happy and also I didnt appreciate her and she has alot to offer someone. So you can see I had alot of confusion. A few months past, I needed to have some real reason so I wrote a heart felt letter asking for a explanation(and I sent 2 others months before W/flowers when we were breaking up to tell how I felt) .We live in the same town and about 2 weeks (9 business days) went passed so I knew she must had gotten it a while ago and I saw her at a store. I have to approach her if we even talk so I didnt even look her way for once to let her come to me. She avoided me on purpose ,I mean it was very clear she saw me and did on purpose. The next day she sent an email saying she just got it and is very busy but will respond soon,hope all is well. I got fed up with everything and emailed back "I am busy too and its your own choice if you send it" because I know she isnt any busier then when we were together and it was to help clear my mind. Well that was about a month ago and I havent got anything. She sent me a email recently with some info I asked for and signed again with the same I hope all is well with you. About twice a week I see her at a racket ball club in the village and she will remain on one side until I move but she will be in an area where I almost have to walk past making me the one to greet her but I have gotten stuborn as her and I am not going to be the one to say anything so I walk a path away from her. I feel like its inmature I didnt cheat or do anything to have her act this way can you explain?
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--- Tuesday, June 29, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Chris,
She is playing games...
Sorry, but the thing is IF you choose to play a game with someone then you're always going to lose.
You've already made every attempt to tell her how you feel with letters and flowers... all you're getting in return is she is busy and she hopes all is well... which is a polite way of saying she is to busy for YOU.
You need to stop altogether with this Chris, and I know its hard because you still have feelings for her... but what you've been doing isn't working and she knows she STILL has the power to upset you and push your buttons...
So you have two options here.... you can continue to do what you've been doing... with the games of not speaking first blah blah and keep being unhappy with the return on that, OR you can move forward and let her stew in it later on when she see's you're not going to play this b.s game anymore.
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