Ok, here is the story, the other night me and my g/f of 1 and 1/2 years went out to party at the club with some friends. When we arrived she saw someone form school who she new, she said hi and talked for a bit, but the guy she new brought a friend...the friend; by the way he was looking at her thought she was hot.
I didn't think much of it because she was going out with me not him. as the night went on we danced played pool and some other stuff. Later on the same guy came up and asked her to dance, i did not mind because i like to let her have fun, and i don't want to be controlling. When they danced it drove me NUTS!!!! he kept doing things that me and her only do when we dance, the way he was holding her, and touching her almost made me want to punch him out right there. When my girlfriend got off she noticed that i looked kinda pissed and she asked did I make you jelous i said yes. She was like Why, then she told me that she only loved me, I told her why i was jelous then she said i love danceing with you more than any other guy in this club, she said she was just haveing fun because he was a good dancer.
The one thing that bothers me the most is that guy problably thinks that my girfriend likes him better than me, and now that he has her number it drives me even more crazy. Is there anything i can do about this
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--- Sunday, June 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Allan,
I understand that you feel upset here, but let me point a few things out to you here...
1) You've said that you like to "LET" your girlfriend have fun... that in itself is kind of a controlling statement.
2) You and your girl need to set boundries and not cross them... I wouldn't want my boyfriend dancing with some other girl in a "grinding" kind of way and i'm pretty certain your girl wouldn't appreciate you doing it either.
With that said... I don't think you need to sweat this guy thinking whatever he wants... as long as your girlfriend is loyal to you, let this guy think whatever he wants to, it doens't matter...
HOWEVER you and your girlfriend need to decide what the two of you feel is appropriate behaviour and okay for BOTH of you, because if you don't this will continue to be an issue.
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