well, maybe not death... but mental damage at least. I have a problem, like most of the people that write on here... i have an awesome guy and we've been engaged for a while, and want to get married soon. we origionally set a wedding date for next week actually, but realized plannign was getting out of hand and called it off. neither of us wants a big wedding AT ALL... like, there is no facet of intrest in a big wedding at all except that our friends and family could be there, and would want to be there. If we have a small wedding, we exclude ppl we want to have there. if we elope, which we would rather do by far, that leaves a lot of people out, and even though i know you don't make decisions based on other people, I know i have some family that would be very upset if they didnt get to see me get married... like my parents... anyway, i know it's kind of stupid compard to some of the other problems on here, but i don't know what to do! help?
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--- Wednesday, June 30, 2004 -
Answer by: Dr. Phil wannabe
Enigma leaves great advice as always, but since you say you want to elope, then do so by all means. When you return you can have a big reception and invite all of your loved ones.
Exactly as Enigma points out -- this is YOUR wedding. Do what YOU want to do. A lot of people will try to ruin things for you or dictate your plans -- but don't let them! This is your wedding, and no matter what -- it should be joyful!
--- Sunday, June 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Well, you are not the first to have this problem and you won't be the last...
It's very easy for other people to get wrapped up in YOUR wedding plans and how THEY think it should be and it is also very easy to allow family members to guilt you into doing things you really didn't want to do regarding those plans.
There are a few options for you here... you can have the big wedding that you really don't want and be unhappy but make others happy... you can keep it CLOSE family and friends ONLY and risk hurting great great great aunt mildreds feelings that she wasn't invited, never mind the fact you never really liked her and have only met her a few times in your life... you can elope and make you and your fiance happy but break your mothers heart and live with her telling you for the rest of your life how it was her ONLY dream in life to see your wedding day...
LOL I know they all sound pretty sucky uh?
Listen, marriage ISN'T about the wedding, trust me on this... relax here, talk to your parents and his parents... tell them that you DON'T want a big wedding... could a good compromise be a small ceremony with a larger reception or "celebration" at a later time for extended family and friends work?
Bottom line... don't do things you don't want to do... thats what makes a lot of girls bridezilla's and LOL you don't need that in your life.
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