I've only been with my boyfriend for three and a half months. He propsed to me three weeks ago and I said yes. I know I love him, not sure if I'm in love. He says I have a bad attitude problem, which to an extent is true. This causes us to fuss and bicker all the time. I'm wondering why if we argue so much why is it so hard to just let go, I mean we've broken up once and whenever we try to give each other space we can't stay apart. Is this normal? He's 21 going on 22 and I'm 19 going on 20. My parents were married after 3months and have been together ever since. I'm not following their footsteps but I want to know if what we have is normal. He's everything I've been looking for and we make each other really happy, it's just somehow we always find a way to argue and the arguements are usually very petty. I also want to know how I can control my attitude to avoid further conflicts in the future. Thanks.
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--- Monday, June 28, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Racquel,
You've only been with him for 3 months and can't get along long enough to stick it out together without breaking up... regardless of what happened with your parents, this isn't the same thing.
It isn't uncommon to find people who fight constantly yet cannot seem to leave one another alone... it's called "obsessive love" and one or both people involved are co dependant... these aren't good, loving healthy relationships.
You've also said that you love him but you're not certain your IN love with him... this doubt alone is enough to send up a red flag here and scream that you need to step back and re evaluate why you agreed to marry him to begin with.
Regarding your "attitude" the only person who knows what drives you is YOU... with that said, you need to figure out what it is that makes you feel that way and find a solution.
--- Monday, June 28, 2004 -
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I don't see where he's "crazy", as Tina put it. What I do see is that you aren't ready to marry him. That much is quite obvious.
--- Monday, June 28, 2004 - Get out
Answer by: Tina
get out you dont need him you dont need to be like your parents ok trust me hes crazy well got to go email me at coconut198517@Yahoo.com
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