Title:
My heart is saying go for it, my head says "NO"
By:
Anonomyous
I met John a few months ago. We had a great conversation and hit it off wonderfully. A few weeks later I decided to call his work, since at the time I didn't know his name or even age. We got along great again, but I found out he had a girlfriend. But he had a friend, Phil, who he set me up with for a date. After a couple dates with Phil, we were all hanging out when in private John kissed me. Apparently he wasn't exclusive with his girlfriend at the time. Me and Phil became closer and closer and became a couple. But after a month he decided he'd rather be just friends w/ me. Since then I've lost all contact with John, the man I was seeking in the beginning. I've heard that he's engaged! and actually has a baby on the way. MY PROBLEM>>> I want to call him and just talk as friends. I don't want to intrude on any engagements, especially since his fiance is a very nice girl. She'll probably see it as different and mean. But all the time I can't stop thinking about that Kiss I shared with John and how much I miss having talks with him. Should I listen to my heart and do it or should I listen to my head which is saying that it's wrong?? PLease help soon before I lose my chance for good.
Responses to this article:
--- Monday, June 28, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Don't kid yourself here and think that you are only wanting to talk to John as friends... you've said that you CAN'T stop thinking about the kiss you shared with him... so to say that you just want to hit him up to be friends isn't really truthful...
You already know how his fiance' is going to feel about this... it IS intrusive and not a good idea... i'm willing to bet that when he had this "private" kiss with you he was SUPPOSE to be exclusive with her, and more than likely the reason things didn't go any further from there.
I don't want to sound mean here... but to say that you wonder if you should do what your heart says or what your head says then follow up with help soon before you lose your chance for good, is pretty telling of where you want things to go with this guy... and again, it ISN'T to be his friend... secondly if you had a chance with this guy to begin with, it would have been BEFORE he was engaged and waaaayyy BEFORE he was expecting a baby with SOMEONE ELSE.
Leave this guy alone, and move on to someone who is available he isn't for more reasons that one.
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