Title:
My girlfriend broke up with me and won't talk
By: coldwig
My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 and a half weeks ago after a good relationship, she won’t reply to emails, texts and she doesn’t answer her phone. Is there anything I can do to get her talking to me again?
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Up till Monday night I sent emails and texts to her saying how terrible I was without her, unknowingly making her avoid talking to me, I realise that was wrong, I want to show her that I’m the same guy she knew but she won’t answer the phone to me and is not replying to texts. I sent a pleasant email via the internet site we met on last yesterday morning (Friday) not asking but only saying hi and hoped she is well.
I read a book called “How to get your lover back” and that’s taught me a lot but I need to get first contact again and don’t know how to do it without looking like a stalker or love sick puppy.
We started seeing each other at the end of February 2004, we fell for each quite quickly and got on well, she was still seeing her ex but the quickly finished and our relationship flourished.
I had a doubts at times and so did she but we managed, she asked me to hang in there a couple of times and I did because theres something special about her. The last couple of months everything has fallen apart especially the last three weeks, she has told me we are finished, she says she means everything she said in the past about how much she loved me etc but doesn’t feel the same way about me anymore.
The week before we broke up we were talking about getting a house together, her idea so I’m lost. I want her back and I’ve made that clear to her, after all that’s happened I believe we can make it and have kids and a house the way we always talked about.
I love her very much but I believe she has made a mistake, we were good together - I'm confident of that, she hasn’t said she doesn’t love me but did say we can only be friends, she also says I haven’t done anything wrong but I can only think I must have.
I'm in the process of designing a card to send to her as a way of showing my love for her, its got a poem I wrote in it which is light hearted and funny, I want to send it to her hoping it might win some of the love back but I don’t want to send it till I can get her talking to me again.
Is there a way I can get her talking to me again without looking like a stalker?
Responses to this article:
--- Saturday, July 31, 2004 -
Answer by: confuzed_gurl
hey man, listen ne thing u do u gonna look like a stalker, so just give her couple days and then try to call her adn if she still dotn answer the call im afraid that u lost ehr, adn i aint tryint o be mean. so try a couple day thing, or take emma advice u prob. better off with her advice ne way.
--- Saturday, July 31, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
My question is, is what happened that make you two break up? Judging by her behavior -- it sounds pretty serious.
I'm assuming here that she either is really, really angry with you about something and she doesn't want to talk to you at all... AND/OR she is just giving you the cold shoulder because she found someone else.
Either way, dude -- she wants nothing to do with you at this time, so don't bother trying to contact her anymore.
--- Saturday, July 31, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Coldwig,
There is something more going on in this relationship than you're saying...
If things were really great between the two of you, then you either missed the signs that things were not so great, or you're not being honest with yourself about what happened.
When you're involved in a relationship, things that are good for both don't for no reason out of no where just fall apart... people will often distance themselves from a sitiuation when they are not going along so great and start seperating themselves from that relationship.
For this girl to have just broke things off without rhyme or reason doesn't make any sense... it seems that it was a pretty serious relationship where the two of you were discussing living together and children etc.
So my advice is to really get at the heart of why she wanted to break things off... you said the two of you had met via the internet right? And at the time you had met she already was involved with someone... so it doesn't seem unreasonable to me that she obviously doesn't have a problem with starting a new relationship, before she has ended one...
Could be she met someone else on the net... could be she is still with the ex that she had a relationship before she met you... there is a piece of information missing from this....
My guess... she is starting something with someone else....
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