Ok I met this guy at work and he has always been bery talkative and outgoing, so I was very attracted to his personality and he's cute too so that didn't hurt. He is so much fun to talk to and be around, so I've been asking him personal questions, so I can get to know him better and hopefully become good friends.
A group of us were going out so I asked if he wanted to come he said to call him. I did he said he'd call if he was coming. He never called me, but someone else in the group and he did come. The whole time it seemed he was avoiding me. His brother was there so they stuck together a lot.
I saw him again Sat. and Mon. at work and it seemed he was avoiding me and didn't want to talk. We talked Mon., but it was wierd and not like it had been before. He asked a friend of ours if I liked him. She said she didn't know, maybe. He said I think she does because she asked me a bunch of personal questions.
It sounds like he isn't interested in me as more than a friend, but I really want him as a friend. What can I do to get rid of the wierdness, get back to the fun we had before, and build on a friendship with him. Should I say something? I'm shy and none confrontational, so this might be hard. Should I have a friend say something?
Any advice. Sorry so long. Please help.
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--- Tuesday, July 20, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Something strange happened there didn't it - things changed so quickly & I understand why you're feeling so confused about it all.
Now, you say he asked a friend whether you liked him - this may have been because of one of the following -
1. He really digs you & wanted to find out via other people how you felt about him OR
2. He's worried you like him more than a friend because he doesn't feel the same
It's anyone's guess which it is but since you do say that he has an outgoing personality it's unlikely that he's scared & is being all weird because of that... I'm just not sure.
Either way, you should keep on being friendly but tell him you've noticed that things have gotten weird recently. Don't just ignore it. Say you're confused because you really just want to get to know him better. Whatever you do you need to clear the air otherwise he'll be getting mixed messages which'll only add to the confusion...
Maybe, if he does approach one of your friends again, put the word out that you're just being friendly & that he needn't be so freaked out by it!!
Don't let this fester - sort it out as best you can :) Best of luck
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