Ok heres the deal, i have been with my boyfriend off and on for 3 years and last july while it was off i met a guy at a hotel room and we ended up havin sex. I figured it was just gonna be a one night stand and was ok with that. He got my number but i still didnt think he would call but he did. We talked everynight for a couple of weeks then he came down here and we went out and ended up hookin up again. I thought that i would be ok wiht just havin sex with him and that i wouldnt get feelings for him. He came in to town again last weekend and i am back with my boyfriend. I am so in love with my boyfriend but i hooked up with matt again... well he came in tonight and i think im fallin for him.... i dont know what to do...i never thought i could be in love with two people at one time... What do i do!! oh just another question.... I have a hickey on my neck...yes i know its trashy...its from matt and i dont know how to get rid of it before tomorrow when i see my boyfriend.... help...
Responses to this article:
--- Wednesday, July 21, 2004 - waaaaaaait
Answer by: dima
I think just hooking up with someone to have sex (this is my personal opinion) is NOT a good thing to be doing AT ALL. However, if you can go be with this other guy it definitely means you don't really like, let alone love your boyfriend. I wouldn't pursue anything with this guy, just having sex. He's gotten it once and he probably figures he can just get it whenever he wants it- and you don't want to end up just being a tool. As for your boyfriend, if you are continually breaking up and getting back together, it probably isn't such a worthwhile relationship anyway. Stay away from the "just sex" guy and take a BIG break with your boyfriend, meanwhile go out and meet new people, but don't jump into anything immediately.
--- Wednesday, July 21, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Be careful, STD's spread like wildfire in cases like this. Even if you use protection you can STILL get STD's. As for this triangle going on you need to pick someone. Two timing isn't fair to the people involved who aren't aware of what you're doing. You are potentially exposing them to STD's to say the least and they don't have the choice here to decide if they want to engage in such risky behaviors. That's not only unfair to them, it's wrong of you.
--- Wednesday, July 21, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Let me get this straight - you CANNOT love your boyfriend otherwise you wouldn't even be considering cheating on him let alone be asking for advice as to how to cover up this lovebite from another guy...
You need to choose who you want, you can't have both. Who do you want to be with? Does this other guy provide anything more than sex? Anything that might contribute towards a proper relationship?
Take some time out, get your head together. Just don't try to have your cake & eat it.
--- Wednesday, July 21, 2004 - umm ok
Answer by: confuzed_gurl
hey, im not the best at given advice but i will try. First off about the hickey try to put cover up on. umm well, from my opinion i think that you can't love two guys, you love one or the other. And if your just having sex with the one guy, then dont you think your in love with the sex. If you wanna throw away three years of relationship, then keep having sex with the other guy then aren't you hurting the one you love, then if you are hurting him then there is no future there, so take my advice dont take my advice I dont care , do wat is best for you. Good luck, oh and if u could help me with my problem that would be great , just email me at anglesweetness20012yahoo.com Thanx
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