I have a problem here. I met this guy two years ago and I like him very much but the problem is: This guy says he likes me very much but does not show me any signs that he likes me. He like staying away for such very long time ( without calling or visiting) and then after months he calls just to check how I am doing. I tried to talk to him why he likes neglecting me but he said he doesn't do it on purpose thats like a habit. We are not yet exclusive couple(which I don't understand why). So, most of the time I decide to leave him alone like this time but he keeps on comming back. What should I do? Should I hang around?
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--- Wednesday, July 21, 2004 - i know what you mean
Answer by: dima
I used to go through the SAME EXACT thing with a guy. I really really thought I liked him and he told me he liked me, but as with your situation, he never actually showed me that he liked me. After some time I realized that I was just letting him turn into this illusion of a perfect guy that liked me, even though the real life person had absolutely no commitment to me whatsoever. I'd even drive myself crazy wondering when he would call again. I'd say the best thing to do is really move on. In my situation the guy would turn into a complete jerk when I would call him and ask him what the deal was. Other times he was very sweet and said he missed me, etc. etc.
If you want you can email me and let me know what happens or if you want to talk about it more I'd be perfectly willing to hear since it sounds like I went through the same thing. dima26@optonline.net
Otherwise, good luck with it!
--- Wednesday, July 21, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Only you can answer the question regarding whether he's worth it - though I think you realise you need to make some changes to the situation as it is now...
If you want him you're gonna have to go out there & get him. What's to say he doesn't realise exactly how you feel & thinks you're a-ok with how things are?
As for it being "a habit" - that's no excuse. Talk to him; tell him that whilst you really like him if he wants any sort of relationship with you then he's got to make some commitment. Ask him what he wants & be firm about it.
At the end of the day only you can turn things around. All you have to do is to communicate with him - don't settle for anything less if you want to be happy & want to enjoy a proper relationship.
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