ok i just started goin out with a really nice hirl that i like alot. i liiked her for a while b4 we started going out and she liked me so i asked her and yeah.
all my friends think im weird adn always make fun of me cuz shes from another country but shes just like everyone else. shes not the "best lookin'-girl in the grade or n e thing but i still like her.
everyone really bugs me and alwayz say i shouldnt go out with her but ilove her and stuff and she means the world to me adn everything but i dont no what to tell my friends without getting in a huge fight.
i dont want to lose my g/f either and i really need help right
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--- Wednesday, July 28, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
RIGHT ON EVERYONE!
These people you're talking about don't sound like FRIENDS - friends wouldn't judge who you choose to date - they'd be happy for you so long as YOU are happy... this seems like a long, long way from that!
People like that take up too much time & can seriously screw up your life. If you want to live the way YOU choose to, with who YOU choose to - then YOU need to stop absorbing the garbage that these morons drone out right now... They're obviously jealous that you've found someone & that you're happy in a relationship, some people just can't stand it when they don't have something that someone else has... some people never really grow up that way.
She's from another country yada yada, who cares? As you say she's just like everyone else (oh actually, I take that back - if 'everyone' is like your current 'friends' she's a whole lot BETTER than everybody else)...
Sure, cultures differ & so on but under it all we're ALL the same, we're ALL God's people no matter what race, culture, religion...
Be proud that you have someone you can love, many people don't have that. As long as the two of you are happy who gives a rat's arse what anyone else has to say about it??
You don't get many shots at true happiness in a relationship so when one does come along don't even think about letting it go because of prejudice like this, it really makes me angry.
If you love her like you say you do shout it from the rooftops that this girl you're with is the TOPS, that you love her with all of your heart & that you've never been happier. Shying away will only encourage these creatures to continue with their nasty remarks so don't tolerate it a day longer.
Find some REAL friends. Please get away from these people - it doesn't have to be this way. No one has the right to tell you who you can & can't date, you don't have to justify yourself to ANYONE...
Best of luck
@:-)
--- Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - I don't know what to do
Answer by: Destiny21
You do not owe your friends anything. If they are joking and causing you pain, question is are they your true friend? They should respect any decision you make in your life, and be there for you, that is what friends are for. Looks doesn't make a person, the prettiest can have the ugliest attitude. As long as she makes you happy, and you two are happy togethe, forget what everyone else thinks or says.
--- Tuesday, July 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Snapple,
Listen, this is the deal...
You don't owe your friends any explanations as to why you choose to date this girl period.
My boyfriend is from a third world country, and also proudly serves in the USMC and I can tell you that regardless of what anyone could ever say, do or think about him, I love him a lot and he is who I choose period!
You're going to find in your life time so many forms of prejudice behaviour... a lot of people fear what they do not understand... and that makes them in my opinion ignorant.
I have learned so much about life from my boyfriend and so much about his culture... he has taught me spanish and really made me appreciate what I have.
There is nothing wrong with dating someone who comes from a different place than yourself... and beauty is in the eye of the beholder you know? There is something really amazing and beautiful about your girl to you...
If you really feel you need to tell your friends anything tell them she is an amazing person... that you love being with her because she treats you great and you have a great time with her... that there are a lot of other people you could date, but you choose her because she makes you happy.
If they are immature s**ts that I fear they are just based upon what you've said regarding them... then they will probably keep it up anyway... then go to plan B... which is telling them you are now dating a girl named NUNYA... which translates into and can be very effective when said with the right tone>>> "NUNYA damn business who I date!"
Good Luck
--- Tuesday, July 27, 2004 - Re: i dont' know what to do
Answer by: Guy
Forget everyone else if the two of you a great together then thats all that matters, I mean its not thier relationship its yours. Keep it up the example that looks aren't always whats important. Best of Luck.
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