ok, There is this girl called hollie that i meet up with once a week....i really like her....& she says she loves me but she dosent want to be my girlfriend....when i phone her up she acts really bitchy...and allways hangs up on me when i try to explane that what is doing is hurting me.........but when i meet up with her half to time she is all over me....then she ignores me....when i ask her if she wants to lose me alltogether she said no no please! and then she pull's me close and kisses me....can i get a womens perspective? or anyone....please help!
Anything would help thank you, Rob xx
Ps:....sorry if this makes no sence...im deslixic
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--- Thursday, July 29, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
sorry - it's NOT irreversible!
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--- Thursday, July 29, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Enigma's right on - by letting her treat you this way you're really just fuelling her behaviour...
Ya know, often it's the case where you let one little annoying thing go, then another, then another and before you know where you are you're a doormat. And all because you really dig someone!
It happens, but it's irreversible, you CAN & SHOULD turn things around. To make Hollie even faintly AWARE of how she's treating you - you need to quit pussy footing around & tell her it ain't on!
Don't waste any more of your time in your current situation - tell her in no uncertain terms that you won't allow her to treat you so bad & you will not let her wind you around her little finger afterwards. Break the cycle & be firm - tell her if she won't change, it's over.
Be the person making the decisions for once, you can do much better. Best of luck
--- Thursday, July 29, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Rob,
Please ask yourself this... what is it about Hollie that you like so much?
She blows you off, is bitchy, has no regard for your feelings, hangs up on you, gets together with you to tell you she is over you, ignores you, says she doesn't want to be your girlfriend...
Rob, listen we treat others how to treat us... and trust me Hollie needs some IMMEDIATE LESSONS on this!
As long as you continue to allow her to treat you bad, obviously she is going to carry on doing so.
You need to STOP asking Hollie what she wants Rob... don't ask her IF she wants to lose you, TELL HER you're not going to put up with her bullshit anymore, that if she cannot or will not treat you with respect and care that you will leave her sorry butt sitting on her own.
Don't give someone the choice Rob of staying in your life when they are toxic... she either wants to be there for you and be good to you, or she needs to go the hell away so you can focus on finding someone who will appreciate what you have to offer.
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