Ok this might be long, but please bare with me. I have two problems sort of related to tell you about and get your opinion. It is about these two guys at work. First off, I like these two guys but I'm confused on whether it is on a friendship level or whether I want more. There is this is Travis. We talk at work, but haven't gotten to personal with each other. We flirt a lot. He told someone I liked him before I really even realized I did. I've had many people tell me they think he likes me and he has kind of hinted at it to friends. It's hard to tell with him b/c he flirts a lot. I'm pretty sure he likes me and wants to get to know me better. My friend told him to talk to me and get to know me. We've talked a bit, but not to in depth at work. He gave me his number, so I gave him mine. Neither of us has called. We've talked about hanging out, but it hasn't happened. What should I do know? I'm getting impatient and I want to hang out and get to know him, but the messages are mixed from him. Should I ask him to do something? Should I ask him how he feels? Should I lay back and wait(this would be sooooo hard!!!)? Help! Other situation that makes it hard is that I have a guy friend who I've always somewhat liked, but I've really gotten to know this year. The more time I spend around him, I'm thinking I want more. He acts different around me than his other friends who are girls and the girls he likes. What should I do? Is there anything to do? So I'm just confused and frustrated right now. I think I want something more with both of them, but I'm not sure. I don't think I have a chance with the guy friend b/c I don't know if he sees me like that, also he has been with a lot of girls lately, which sort of turns me off. Then there is Travis who has made comments about liking me and wanting to get to know me, but he has made any moves lately. I just need to vent and need some advice. Thanks for listening.
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--- Monday, August 30, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
LMAO!!! ^5 Jonathan awesome advice;)
--- Monday, August 30, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Summer,
Damn Enigma, you are so acurate. Now I don't know what to say! See what you did. I'll give whatever advice I can though...
First of all, your guy friend must not be too interested if he talks about other girls in your face. Now as for Travis, there may be something more going on from what I've read. In my opinion, insecurity can also be loves enemy -- in the beginning, that is. I could write a book on a number of girls I missed out on because of it. Then you sit at home killing yourself and stressing because you didn't make a move when you had a one-time opportunity. But I'm getting way off the subject here; or am I. For this type of guy, it would be wise for you to chunk out a few hints and see if he catches his cue. By you doing this, I can promise you a loss of being confused.
However, if you're not comfortable being a little aggressive, like some woman, just give it some more time. As for your guy friend, you should cut yourself from the dating sheet; that is unless he decide to reveal his true feelings (if any). Add my advice to Enigma's and you can't go wrong.
Good Luck... Until George Bush kills us...
--- Monday, August 30, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Summer,
My guess is Travis is feeling the same way about you right now, as you are with him...
You seem to be interested in him (he thinks) you've got his number (but you haven't called him) you also tell him that you want to hang out (but you haven't invited him anywhere)
I know that ideally you would like for him to make the first move here... but he may be very shy or insecure that if he asks you, you may say no... see what i'm saying?
Guys are just as insecure as girls are... so my suggestion is this... if you like Travis then give him a call one nite to chat, or invite him to go somewhere with you...
As far as the guy "friend" is concerned... if he lets you know what girls he likes and whom he is interested in... to me that would indicate that he doesn't have a romantic interest in you... I say that because when a guy/girl is interested romantically in a person they don't let on to that person that they are interested and God forbid involved with someone else... see what i'm saying?
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