Thanks for your advice regarding my situation with the guy from work named Travis.
You said, "You seem to be interested in him (he thinks) you've got his number (but you haven't called him) you also tell him that you want to hang out (but you haven't invited him anywhere)."
Ok the thing is: I am interested in him and want to get to know him better, I haven't called one because I'm a chicken and two I see him at work, and yes I have told him I wanted to hang out and so some friends and I were going out and I invited him along, but he had plans.
So I am stuck whether to call and talk to him since I see him at work and because I would rather talk in person. And I'm stuck on whether to keep asking him to hang out because I don't want to seem desperate. It's hard to wait and see what happens because the more I see him the more I really want to hang out.
Any further advice?? Thanks again for what you already said.
Responses to this article:
--- Wednesday, September 1, 2004 - It's me again
Answer by: Summer23
Just wanted to thank you again. I know I think and look way too much into things. I hope he calls, so we'll see. Thanks for listening, I might need your advice again if you don't mind.
--- Wednesday, September 1, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Summer,
You're being waaayyy to hard on yourself sister!
You took the initative to call him and invite him out... doesn't matter if it was loud in there, it's okay girl!
You have nothing to feel embarrased about... the long weekend is coming up and he has said he will give you a call... so sit tight for now okay? I think he will call you!
If you feel that bad about things, then when you see him, just say you didn't realize it would be so loud when you made the call... play it off, no big deal okay?
Don't worry so much;)
--- Tuesday, August 31, 2004 - More info...
Answer by: Summer23
Enigma, SO I did something kind of stupid with the Travis situation. I'm embarassed and feel stupid. I was bowling with some people from work and I decided to call Travis and invite him. I called, but it was loud and I could barely hear him. I just wish I would have called and just chatted with him first before inviting him somewhere because that was the first time I called him on the phone. Is that stupid to just call him up to come and not say much more. I feel bad that I couldn't hear him. I should I went outside or somthing. He couldn't come because he was at a friends house and I wasn't going to be there much longer, but he said he'd call and maybe we could hang out this weekend. Hopefully he'll call, but I feel embarassed about the call I made. What do you think? Thanks for letting me vent my frustrations.
--- Tuesday, August 31, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
You're welcome girl!
Hope it all goes the way you want it too... be confident!
--- Monday, August 30, 2004 - Enigma...
Answer by: Summer23
Thanks Enigma. You are so great! I'll give it a try and see how it goes.
--- Monday, August 30, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Summer,
You're welcome girl!
Listen this is the thing... Travis is feeling all the same things you are... he is afraid to call you and he doesn't want to keep bringing up hanging out because just like you, he doesn't want to seem desperate.
Somethings got to give here you know? I understand where you're coming from... that you feel uncertain what to say or do... and that is perfectly normal and okay to feel that way Summer... BUT do you really want to keep on doing this "dance" with him? You know he likes you, you know you like him... so that part is pretty certain...
My advice Summer is if you are to afraid to call him to ask him to do something with you outside of work, then enlist friends here... and I don't mean have your friends ask for you that never goes well...
What I would recommend is getting a few of your friends together for a BBQ outside of work... everyone chip in something for food and drinks... this could take place at the beach (lol if you live near a beach) or at someones home...
Bottom line Summer... the only way you are going to have an opportunity to hang out with this guy outside of work is to go the extra mile... it doesn't make you look desperate, it makes you look confident;)
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