Title:
A 16YR GIRL IN LOVE WITH 19YR ABERCROMBIE MODEL
By: DELIA
well.....i met this 19 year old dude named daniel at the bolwing alley i met him through my sisters friends well i hung out with him and about 10 other frinds for the rest of the evening well he took me to his house and i spent the night their ...he carried me up the stairs, well i had sex with him and he is the second guy i have ever had sex with ....well um from that night on we had done everything toghther and we went golfing ...family reuinon, movies.. out to diner hung out with my mom, had a few partys i mean we did everything togther well ...i know he didnt want a girl friend at the time he just got out of a serious relationship with a bitchy girl ...well i wasnt really wanting a boyfriend neither becasue i was in love once and that dude broke my heart...well later on he introduced me to his friend jonnie and me and him became like best friends and still are he is 19 same age as daniel well us three did everything toghter well everytime we go somewhere togheter guys always stare at me and say how beatiful i am well one night we went out of town and like 10 guys came up to him and said is that your girl he said yes and they were like damn you got a beatuiful lady and then one night my friend jonnie was like you know daniel doenst want o be your b/f i said i know that he said daniel just wants a whole bunch of lady friends ....well i acted like it didnt phase me but inside it did.... well um later that night he was like well you might as well be my girlfriend but he wasnt asking me out he was just putting it like well i cant realy explain it...well daniel is like so gorgeous lots of girls want him he is 19 lots of guys want me i am 16 though and i have long blonde hair down to my butt and eyes like pamela anderson... he always tells me how perfct i am how sweet i am how beautiful i am and then one weekend i caled him and he started not answering my phone calls and i called jonnie our friend-my best friend and he said well um he is seein this other girl named Hedi she is 20 ...well i know daniel likes girls his own age ...but he always told me i was very mature that i was differnt from most 16 year old girls and stuff like that well ....we havent talked in abut two weeks and i realize i love him i always call jonnie because me and him are still friends and he hangs out with daniel but everytime i call now daniel asks to talk to me i always say no ......because i am embarresed about my age ...i love him so much but i dont know how to tell him becasue i dont think he loves me what do i do? ppppppppppppppppppppllllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaasssssssssseeeeeeeeeee somebody give me advice de'lia
Responses to this article:
--- Friday, August 20, 2004 - From a guy's perspective
Answer by: Gregg@LoveIsGreat.com
Delia,
It sounds like you fell for a guy even though you knew he was a player. It sounds like both you and this guy are good looking ... which can be a blessing and a curse. Guys will use you ... till you look for a guy who isn't good looking but who is good.
You may have feelings for Daniel, but must likely they are a bit of infatuation and liking, not love. Daniel may like you, but guessing he is more into lust with you and that may be why he wants to talk with you.
Jonnie may be a true friend, or he may be a friend because he also is interested in being with you. Hard to say. Part of the curse of your looks.
So my suggestion to you is this. Don't bother telling him you love him, because you really don't. No matter how strong it feels, it isn't the real thing.
--- Friday, August 20, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Delia, I don't want to sound like a lecturer here, but sleeping with Daniel so very fast and soon like that was a BIG mistake.
Let me tell you something -- and this might be hard to take but it's the truth: When you sleep with a guy so soon like that, he will NOT respect you nor will he probably want a serious relationship with you. Why? The reason is because you slept with him so quickly without going through the stages people go through in relationships, and now the "relationship" you have with Daniel is based upon SEX and sex alone. You can be the most beautiful woman in the world, but when you give it up like that so fast -- the guy will see you as a pretty woman he can have a fun time in bed with. You're a lot more than that, Delia. Show yourself that worth.
Young girls like yourself get sex confused with love. It's NOT the same, and sex does NOT bring on love. To a lot of guys, sex is sex. End of story.
Learn a huge lesson here -- take the time to develop meaningful relationships FIRST before you jump into the sack. Otherwise, you're only asking for a broken heart -- to say the LEAST. Be smart.
--- Thursday, August 19, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Delia,
I don't want to sound like an asshole here, but you sound really full of yourself.
I have no doubt what so ever that you are a pretty girl Delia, so don't get me wrong... BUT it is obvious that you think so, and to most people (i'm willing to go out on a limb here and say really all people) going around like your all that and then some, is a big turn off.
It shows a great deal of insecurity when you base everything on looks alone, regardless if you're a guy or a girl. Daniel may think you're very pretty, but is he seeing any thing other than that? The same question applies to you here as well... anything else you like about this guy other than the way he looks or the fact that other girls think he is attractive?
You had sex with Daniel the first time you met him Delia... and although you may not think there is anything wrong with that, most guys don't see it that way... sorry. He might have been all about it,and in my opinion it doesn't make it okay... but i'm willing to bet he thinks you sleep with anyone you think is attractive regardless if you know them or not...
Relationships take time to develop... and jumping into bed with them less than 24 hours after you've met them isn't the way to establish something meaningful.
There isn't any reason to feel embarrased about your age Delia, don't be in such a hurry to grow up so fast. You've got plenty of time. Daniel may just be in a different place right now than you are and thats okay.
Let him be... keep in mind that he didn't think 16 was to young for him to be having sex with you know? So if he is going to play little mind games now... then maybe it's him who isn't mature enough for a relationship.
When you know straight up that a guy isn't looking for a relationship and you have sex with him anyway... don't be suprised when you get out of it what was offered to begin with.
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