Title: What should I do now?

By: salman

I am almost 32 years old man from Pakistan. I love a girl since 1997 but I never told her that I love her. I saw her first time in a park where I go for jogging. She was with her mom. She smiles at me & I really liked her but I do not have guts to talk to her because I am a shy man. You must know about the culture of Pakistan & its cultural values. I inquire about her & I knew that she belongs from a very rich family. I belong from a middle class family so I tried to forget her but not succeed & she always encouraged me with her looks. I had the idea that her mom knows about my feelings. I always tried to tell my girl that I really like her from my looks & action. In the beginning of 2001, she stops coming to that park. I always went to the park with this hope that she will come one day I knew about her house & I saw her car few times but without her.



This year in March I saw her in her car, after more then 3 years, I was with my friend we chased her car, she was with her family. In June, this year she starts coming to that Park. In the start she ignored me completely even I tried to go near to her she walked away , but after few days she started looking at me with smiling face . I have the feeling that if I will not take any step I will lose her forever. I discussed this matter with my very close friend .He suggested me that I should purposed her through my parents.( As it is according to the values of my society) My friend talked to his wife she about my matter she was of the opinion that we should inquire about her that she is engaged or interested in some one before sending proposal through my parents. My friends wife went to that park me & my friend were with her. She met to my girl & told her that she is new in the park so she should guide her. She talked with my girl She told her that she is not engaged & not interested in any one & she was in U.K for studies. After completing the walking round my friend’s wife met to my girl’s mom& took her telephone number. My girls mom saw me with my friends wife.





After few days my friends wife call to my girls mom , she was not at home so she talked to my girl & she gave her Tel #.Next day my girls mom call to my friends wife .My friends wife told her about me & that my parents wants to purpose her daughter for me. My girl’s mom responded very positively & said that she will welcome my parents. My mom call my girls mom & purposed her daughter for me , her mom asked my mom about our caste .Her mom refuse my mom completely & said that they never do marriages out side their caste. It was a big shock for me I never thought that educated people could think like this. I do not believe in caste system & my religion is totally against it. I didn’t went to the park for many days , then I feel that if I will not go there she will forget me , so I started going to the park. She ignored me for few days then she starts looking & smiling even more then before. I don’t know what to do now I am a very shy man & even afraid that she can reject me again. I need your help & I am hopeful that you will help me and advice what should I do now .I can’t live without her because I really love her. Please keep in mind about the cultural values of my society. I am waiting for your reply.





Salman

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Wednesday, August 25, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma