I have this guy that i really like, and latly he's been giving me some signals, but i don't get them until later, and when i do get them i don't know what to do back. He came over my house on night and was looking at a picture of my mom, aunt and grandma, so my mom asked him which one he thought was the cutest out of them....so he points to my grandma. Then he looks at a picture of me when i was like 7 with BIG fluffy hair and looks at me and says " Oh, but i think that she looks cuter though...." and looks at me and smiles. He even said that with my mom standing there, i didn't get it tell later on. another night, him and another guy were counting money and me and his mom came in and were joking that the money was for pizza. Then all of the sudden he says " Do you think this is enough for a dress?" i thought he was still joking so i was like " no i don't think so." later after i said that i thought 'WEDDING DRESS????' he didn't bring it up again. He's been giving me a whole lot of signs, i just want to know what i can do back to him to let him know i like him also. any signal that would triger it or somthing. please help.
Molly
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--- Thursday, August 26, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Molly,
Well... it seems that you are getting the signals even if it's after the fact...
So with that said... since you already know now that he seems to have an interest in you and obviously you in him... when you do spend time with him, be a little more observant of his body langauge...
Is he leaning in when you speak? Is he making eye contact with you? As crazy as it sounds... when the two of you are sitting near one another are his feet lined up with your body? Does he find a way to touch your arm (lol Emma, I am about that for real!)
He obviously is physically attracted to you... he said so even if the photo was with fluffy hair LOL seeeeee he likes you even with fluffy hair girl!
Don't make to much out of the dress thing just yet though okay? See I don't know how old the two of you are, but I was thinking more like prom dress than wedding dress... LOL just saying... you haven't gone on a date yet so don't jump the gun here.
Relax... be yourself and watch what his body language is telling you.
Good Luck
--- Thursday, August 26, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Well Molly, you are certainly NOT alone in not knowing how to send signals, how to receive them, how to decipher them & so on...
Honestly though things such as these can be over analysed :) I always think that such things should be natural, should be your initial expression of your feelings. But if, like me, you aren't as well in tune with your emotions (in terms of letting them out, that is) as others then practice is all it takes along with a little bit of effort...
Like compliments, compliment him - tell him he looks nice, hopefully this is what you're thinking anyhoo... Maintain good eye contact, eyes are the "windows of your soul" as they say; so do put some effort into this one. Also, Enigma is a big fan of the occasional touch, like gently on the arm during conversation. This will stick in his mind, even though it lasts only a few seconds...
These are some things you should try to work on but really you should have more confidence when accepting his little flirting foibles. Be ready for them & accept them - flirt back - otherwise he might think that it's all falling on deaf ears :)
Whatever though, this guy likes you - you've figured that much - and you like him. Perfect! That's the hard bit done, now just loosen up a little & flirt - from the sounds of it; he doesn't need too much encouragement ;)
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