I have liked my best friend forever, and he knew but nothing really happened between us, until the day he finally decided he likes me, and i was thrilled cuz i've liked him for over a year. well we decided to become more than friends but he isn't treating more than a friend. he doesn't hold my hand, he doesn't kiss me. it's like we are still friends. he is really shy and has never been in a relationship before could this be why nothing has happened? he takes me on dates and stuff, and always drops by my house, but nothing happens ever! what should i do?
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--- Friday, August 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
If you're his first girlfriend, this is almost always the case -- rather you're a male or female. As for the holding hands and kissing situation, you should throw in a few signal to help out this "first timer." I'm not saying that you should initiate when it comes to kissing, but throw in a few signals. Now if you have patience, this will automatically happen -- trust me. I can truly say that I've not met a guy any different -- in fact, I was the same way with women. Remember that guys usually have to be aggresive in relationships so there's alot of pressure on him; especially since it's a first for him. Good Luck... Until George Bush kills us...
--- Friday, August 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Okay, whilst I agree with what Enigma says - I had a "relationship" with an inexperienced guy & no, I don't mean sexually inexperienced (I'm a Christian & I believe God made that for marriage) but inexperienced with dating ladies. To make things worse I was in the same boat & to top it all off, we were BOTH very (& I mean VERY) shy...
Sure, give him more time - just taking things beyond "best friends" is a big step just don't wait around forever, know what I'm saying? For example, I don't know how forward a person you are, but when you're next out with him, how about you hold his hand? I made things like this a big deal & so did he, hence we never did it!!! (For real, I'm not joking & before you ask, we were over 18... a bit pathetic I know, I guess we were cute - though that wasn't any consolation at the time!)
Hold his hand, see how he reacts & if the signs are good depart with a kiss on the cheek. It's good to get used to these things now so that you can enjoy being together properly without worrying about how you're NOT acting :)
Relax & be cool. You both like each other & this is just the usual way of expressing this - if you can though, take the pressure off him, give him something to go on... often too much is placed on guys to take the lead - there are a lot of gentlemen out there.
Best of luck with things! @:-)
--- Thursday, August 26, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Give him some time...
This is the first "relationship" he's had you know? So he probably isn't sure what he should do... so be patient and give him some time to figure things out and to feel comfortable in this.
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