I have a HUGE crush on this one guy named Lewis. Total hottie. Well, I need help. Does he like me or not?
Here's the scoop on him...
I've known Lewis for a long time. I met him in the 5th grade at an afterschool care place. Well, back then, I was a little tomboy. My silk curls of dark brown hair pulled back in a tail, jeans and t-shirt, and a fist that knocked any opposing boy on his butt. I was one of the biggest tomboy to walk those halls. Well, Lewis (back then) was a little smart butt. He was rude, mean, heart-breaker, and many other things. He was a good friend of mine. We'd always be fighting, but that was like a normal nice chat for us. Well, he moved or something and I didn't see him after the 6th grade. Till this year. I'm in 10th grade now. He's in 9th. Freshman. Well, the first time I glanced at him, I nearly tripped over my own feet. He'd grown! Tall, dark, and certainly a cutie. Sure, I was attracted to him, but he was rude way back when and I wasnt sure he'd go for me now. I never took the time to say hey to him though. Except for when I was coming from my 1st hour class. He was going to the class I was coming from. I was talking with my friend and I happened to glance over when he was coming by and our eyes met. My hazelish green ones to his deep darkened brown ones. Time literally froze for me. Then he gave me a big grin, turned and walked away. I continued on my way too. I couldn't get him out of my mind from then on. His eyes, the way I felt...it drove me nuts! Now, you gotta know something...I'm a sucker for colored eyes. Green, blue, hazel...thats it. I usually hate brown eyes. Yet his were so amazing that no eyes matched up to them. (BTW, I think of eyes as gateways to the soul) and his soul bedazzled me. Then, today at practice, (our first drill team practice of the year and freshman were trying out), I was just chilling up front and hanging with my girl Cleo. Then I look over and BAM! Lewis is sitting right there. I turned pink and sat down in my seat quickly. For the rest of the time, I wanted to avoid him because I was shy. Then we went outside and *I* was chosen to teach him and another boy to spin. He kept watching me and smiling big when I talked. I dunno what was up. Does he like me? I know it's extreme, but the connection I felt when I met his eyes makes me beleive I'm in love.
Well, recently its been weird. Like, he'll talk to me at Drill practice, but not that much. Only to tell me about how good he's been practicing. Or he'll mention how he totally remembers me from the YAC (Youth Association Center). Or he'll do some kind of hint that makes me think he likes me, but then my friend Christian had to butt in. She is a little bit of a hoe/flirt, but she HAS A BOYFRIEND! (Not like that would stop her from going for Lewis) but she told me she had asked him if he liked me. NOT WHAT I WANTED TO HAPPEN! Then she said that he'd said "I like her for a friend." Talk about my heart shattering. I wanted to cry. I felt so hurt! What's going on? Does he like me? What should I do? I NEED HELP!
Responses to this article:
--- Sunday, August 29, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Well, I gave you advice before... but apparently you don't want to just date both of the guys and see who's right for you...
Emma's right onwhen she says that you're not in love here... it's easy to confuse thet two, but love takes time to grow... you gotta get to know the dude before you can claim love...
Anyway. My advice other than to get to know both of them, is to decide who brings out the best in you. Who makes you feel like you can be yourself most? Who makes you smile? Who makes you feel the most natural and comfortable?
While looks are important, it's not everything... as my pal Enigma points out --looks mean nothing if the guy is a total jackass...
just my two cents and then some
Lol Jonathan... Good luck Sandry, before the country is ruined and KERRY becomes elected!
--- Saturday, August 28, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Sandry,
Well Jonathan and Emma have both given you some great advice here...
Just one or two more things I want to point out to you...
1) Choose your friends more wisely... when you can say that your girlfriend is a Ho... take this as not a good thing Sandry. You should be able to confide in your friends and know they have your back and interest at heart.
2) Don't put so much into someone's looks. Obviously there needs to be a physical attraction to someone for an interest to spark to begin with, BUT going so far as to say that you would usually "hate" someones looks who's eyes were brown? That for real is going waaayyyyy to far.
Lewis was rude to you back in the day right? Doesn't really mean to much now, as people grow and change... but keep this in mind regardless if it's Lewis you have your eye on or someone else later... good looks DO NOT make up for a crappy personality.
--- Saturday, August 28, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Sandry, Seems like Emma has told about everything there is to say. I would also like to add my 50cent in on this -- if it's worth anything. I can tell by how long of an article (or book) you've written that you are highly infactuated by this guys physical appearance. Much as you seem to like him means that you could get hurt even worse if there are no mutual feeling between the two of you. Remember that someones appearance is only part of the package. If you are to learn that he/she has no more to offer than looks, you'd lose any interest gained from the begining after a while. At this point it would be wise to sit and talk with him; get to know'em. But I'll tell you what I tell others in similar articles. If you really like him, don't allow a strong friendship to take place between you too. This is something you should stick with from here on out. Don't become someones friend if you like them -- try your best to avoid it. You don't want to meet his new girl friend, do you? This IS more than likely to happen. After all --- you two are just friends. I stick around to see silly shit like this happen to alot of friends. They then sit at home looking crazy because THEY took the wrong path. But I'm getting a bit off the subject here.
Start making your moves ASAP. If you really dig him, I'll bet that there are many other girls eyeing him right NOW. I'm not saying that you should go out and do something crazy, but sit down and get your priorities straight. Get his phone number, ask him out to a movie or something in that category. Don't ever bring up the word FRIEND if he question your motive(s).
Good Luck... Until George Bush kills us...
--- Saturday, August 28, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Whoa! Here's the deal - you are NOT "in love" with this guy. Being in love happens when you know the person inside out, when there's not one single thing that you don't know about them, when you accept them for EVERYTHING they are & even love them for their flaws... It's a strong phrase to be throwing about this way & should be saved for someone with whom you truly feel a lasting connection with...
You are clearly infatuated with Lewis & put a great deal of significance on his looks - you do not know, however, what he's about, his personality or what makes him tick - you don't know what he's like on the inside.
These feelings that you have will most likely fade, or at least get weaker - if however, you were to get to know him properly over a significant amount of time & your feelings remained just as strong, if not stronger, then we might think about introducing love into the equation...
For now, he doesn't seem to like you as "more than a friend" - I only assume this from his answer to the direct question which was posed to him since I'm not able to read his mind! But, having said that, such a question would be unlikely to unearth an honest answer anyway - especially if a guy were to really dig you - he'd want to get to know YOU better he wouldn't conduct a relationship through your friend... so don't read too much into that answer...
You mustn't take this so bad - you haven't got to know him, he doesn't realise the kind of girl you are & how great it would be to get to know you. You haven't really had the opportunity to hang out either. So, play it cool, it's VERY early days - get to know the guy, get his number & hang out. It's the only way you're gonna find out whether you have anything in common :)
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