I love my boyfriend so much, and I know that sex is going to be coming up sometime in the future. I'm just so afraid. I know it's going to hurt so badly, and I'm afraid he'll get sick of me. I also worry that I won't satisfy him as much as his ex did. In case you were wondering, I'm a virgin and he isn't. How can I calm myself down some? Because I know he won't just drop me after we do it, I just worry too much. Does everyone worry like I do? Or am I just paranoid?
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--- Monday, August 30, 2004 - not ready
Answer by: 392064193
if you're freaking out this much, my guess it that you're not quite ready...i mean, sex is a big step in any relationship and it can either help or hurt a relationship. but dont do any thing you're not ready for or comfortable with. in my opinion, age doesnt matter, but if BOTH people in the COMMITTED relationship are READY, then go for it, but if not, its not worth it! good luck
--- Monday, August 30, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Music,
The guys are right...
You're not ready to have sex, and that is okay.
If this guy cares about you Music, and you feel so certain that he wouldn't drop you after... then what is wrong with waiting? If he cares the way you think he does, then he won't mind waiting.
Good Luck
--- Sunday, August 29, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Don't do ANYTHING you're not waiting for. Since you're having doubts and concerns, I'd say you're not ready in the least.
Good luck... until Kerry is elected pres...
--- Sunday, August 29, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi music,
To me it sounds as if you're not ready to have sex. And if you're not, don't do it. This really should reveal the fidelity in your relationship. If he dumps you over this, he has finally revealed his feelings for you. However, if he loves you this wont change anything at all. This seems like the perfect way to find out how someone feels about you, to me. But I have a few questions. How long have you two been dating? And, how OLD are you? If young, I'd disagree with the whole idea of sex. It seems as if you're trying to please him and give him what you THINK he wants. Nine times out of ten, if you have sex with him early, he'll lose any respect he has for you. I mean, what happened to the other girl who for some reason you know he had sex with? From that little paragraph, you've told me alot about this guy. Sex isn't the key to a successful relationship. That usually comes l8eron -- when there's true commitment. What more can I say?
Good Luck... Until George Bush kills us... reedplex@excite.com
--- Sunday, August 29, 2004 - Re: scared
Answer by: Guy
Dump him, thats all i got to say, if hes using you for that then hes not worth going out with. You deserve better. You should go out with someone who likes you for who you are. Best of Luck and God Bless.
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