Title:
Engagement off..but wants me 2 wear his ring..HELP
By: lilkiss4u
Well i was engaged to my bf for over four years ..although we called the engagement off a couple of months ago..(i wont go in to that) but however after talking that through we thought it better off us just being boyfriend/girlfriend. The problem is this-he still wants me to wear his ring and he wears his ring that i gave to him too. I cant understand of why he still chooses to wear the ring if we're no longer engaged..he says that he wears it because its a symbol of us and that he wants people to see that im still his..that we're together. He said he'll always wear his ring even if i dont. If i dont wear my ring he'll pick an argument and say-'why arent u wearing the ring..you dont love me, see our you are' that kinda thing. I told him that i do love him but that i wont wear his ring because it doesnt feel right to wear it unless your engaged. He doesnt understand that and its driving me crazy..any ideas..please help..thanx..:)
Responses to this article:
--- Monday, August 23, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Lil,
Sam is giving you good advice here....
There is also such a thing as a "promise ring" not uncommon at all... a really awesome on is on a site called www.justmetal.com it is a titanium ring the ring is called fidelity, and it is sold as a "set of two"
Something to think about.
Good Luck
--- Sunday, August 22, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Well, before I get into giving you advice here... you've got to understand where your boyfriend is coming from. I don't know the circumstance as to why you two called off your engagement -- but apparently breaking it off has hurt him and made him feel insecure about your relationship and where it is headed now... which is completely understandable and normal on his part. He is confused and he has a right to be.
Now, as far as my advice goes... you just have to talk to him. Let him know (kindly) that the ring is all about a symbolism, and that you wouldn't feel right wearing it since you are not engaged. I'll warn you, though -- doing so may have disasterous consequences. It may hurt him more... but if that's the way you feel then be upfront and honest.
If you want (and this is merely as suggestion), you could offer to go out and buy silver rings and declare them "couple rings"... I'm not trying to be corny here but it may make him feel more at ease.
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