What can i do to get my love life up and running again? Its been a year since my daughter was born and me and my bf only make love like 2 a month. What can i do?
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--- Friday, August 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Jonathan, not to get all political here but George Bush is better than that Kerry. IMHO. :-)
As far as my advice goes, communicate with your boyfriend. Let him know how you feel. Buy some sexy lingerie. Have a babysitter watch the kids while you two get out and have some romance. Communicate!
--- Friday, August 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Darn kids (lol). But it seems as if you really care about making this thing work with your partner. Since we know you love him, there's nothing that I may say that you probably wouldn't try to make it work. But like others have said: communication can fix alot, and no matter who post to your question, you will hear something similar. When couples don't communicate, they begin to question their relationship. "Does he/she still love me" can be the number one question fluctuating in your mind. Alot of thing go on in ones mind that you wouldn't even think of. However, when you communicate (honestly and openly), alot of your wonders could be brought to the light. You can then work things out from there. Try and put the spark back into the relationship. Drop the kid off at a family members home and kick it. If you ask me, I'd say the "little person" is supposed to bring you two closer together -- not farther apart. But only you know truly what possible could be the cause of a bitter relationship. Good Luck... Until George Bush kills us!
--- Friday, August 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Right on! Communication is the key. Things are far from being unsalvageable, in fact; problems may be solved very easily. Intimacy doesn't necessarily mean sex; just being close to one another & feeling loved are this too...
How about you put some effort into making your guy feel loved & that - even though you now have a "little person" (cute phrase, Enigma!) - that your feelings for him haven't changed one bit... It ain't no one-way street however & you should find this effort returned since I'm sure he's craving what you once had so... quit thinking it's never gonna be again, it can & WILL be just as good...
A little free time spent with one another - to enjoy each other's company is what's in order here - get someone to look after your daughter & relax in the embrace of your beloved :) Easy as pie!
Best of luck @:-)
--- Friday, August 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Talk to your boyfriend about this...
It isn't uncommon for intimacy to decline somewhat after the birth of a child for a lot of reasons... the obvious being right after as your body is healing itself... however even after a years time, things may still be slower than they had been before because you've got a little person with you 24~7...
So much focus is directed onto your little people that it is very easy to neglect the romantic relationship you have with your significant other... you both may be tired, stressed or just have a lot on your mind...
It doesn't have to be this way... communicate with your man... tell him that you miss him a lot and make the time to spend some quality time alone... call up grandma ask her to watch your little girl for a few hours so you can spend some time just the two of you... during the week put your little one to bed an hour earlier and devote that time to one another... not doing laundry or bills...
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