So im wondering me and my b/f got into a fight then the next moring he came over and told me he was gonna ask me to marry him on my birthday which is sep 23 but now hes not Why would a guy do something so mean and hurtfull is he still going to or not is what i want to know... y would he tell me if hes not going to???HELP ME IM COMFUSED
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--- Monday, August 30, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Bianca,
Say it with me sister... G-A-M-E-S
Your boyfriend is running mind games on you. The only reason he told you this B.S is to hurt you and let you know that you displeased him and that the consequence of that is he isn't going to ask you to marry him... well girl, if I were in your shoes I would have told him not to flatter himself in thinking that even if he did ask that you would've said yes!
Marriage isn't going to improve your relationship Bianca... not to mention if the child you have belongs to the both of you... girl he should've already done the right thing a looonnngggg time ago.
Don't allow someone to treat you bad with the promise of marriage Bianca, because what have you really "won" then you are married to a guy who runs mind games on you... that isn't okay.
Good Luck
--- Sunday, August 29, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Bianca,
Again, I'm working with inadequate info here -- or better said -- I don't completely understand your question. However, I'll do my best to help. That is by saying that he may be playing with your head. The way he said he wasn't going to ask you sounds childish to me. I'll bet he plays alot of games; am I right?
It would have been better for you to tell me the reason you two had this fight. From what you wrote, if acurate, I'd say he's trying to hurt you on purpose. C'mon. Why would he come over to tell you that he's not going to marry you? I think you get the drift... I can tell you really like this guy though (or love him). In my opinion, it would be wise to take a step back and let him see how it feels. Don't let him see that he's affecting your emotions, which is probably what you've done in the past, allowing him to get away with so much. When he see that he's not getting to you, he'll eventually stop -- that's if he's going anywhere with you.
Once again, I don't know if I'm completely acurate, being that you didn't give enough information to work with. And I don't want to give you any faulty advice -- leading you in the wrong direction. If he calls the marriage back on, it would also be wise for you to delay it. You need to be completely certain that this will work out. You don't want to take this road and end up with miserable life.
Good Luck... Until George Bush kills us... reedplex@excite.com
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