Hi it's Summer, I have an update on my situation with Travis, so tell me what you think. I talked to him on Wednesday night. He called me back and apologized for not calling back on Tuesday and gave me some lame excuse, that he left his phone at a friend's house, which I don't really believe. jokingly I said sure you did and he said no really. So we talked about general things for a bit then he said well I might be able to hang out tonight if I don't work on my car, so I'll give you a call. He said we will hang out soon I promise. Needless to say he didn't call. I saw him yesterday when I went to visit a friend at work. I sort of ignored him, so I didn't seem all desperate to talk to him. He drove up in his car and stopped. He acted like he wanted to talk, but didn't say much. We talked for a brief second then he had to go because he was blocking traffic, so I said bye and he said I'll call you later. I said ok. Later that night I had a problem with some friends and was upset he hadn't called, so stupidly I sent hima text message because I thought it was too late to call. I wish I wouldn't have sent it, but I did. It said hey what's up? I thought you were going to call. Well maybe we'll talk soon. I'm going to bed now, so have a good night if your still up. I haven't heard back today, but I know he is at work until seven tonight. That's where things are now. What do you guys think? Was I stupid sending the text? What should I do now? Thanks for your help: Sam, Jonathan, Enigma, and Emma.
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--- Monday, September 13, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Oh - I seem to have missed out on all of this but here's my opinion all the same :) (Great advice from everyone!)
Summer, I did hold out some hope that he wouldn't have any "lame excuses" & this hope has been the tone of my posts all along. Now though, I've changed my mind completely... It seems he's way too weak to refrain from yelling "I'll call ya" at every available opportunity & actually seems to enjoy leading you on which is damn, damn cruel...
Sam's post sums up what we all think, Summer & though it must be upsetting for you, you deserve to be treated A LOT better. If he wanted to call, hang out sometime (& the rest) then, like Sam said, he would have used someone else's phone or got access to a land line - ANY MEANS to let you know what's delaying him...
WHEN he makes another promise - tell him straight up that he's messed you around quite enough & that you're busy anyhow... don't listen to his excuses - maybe then he'll realise what he's missed out on... a fab girl like you. His loss is some other guy's gain, Summer & they'll come along as soon as you kick his sorry ass to the kerb...
He might change his behaviour after you do this - you do like him after all & if he was persistent in his apologies, truly remorseful for playing around with you then maybe, just maybe you might want to reconsider going out someplace ON YOUR TERMS. For now though, he offers you NOTHING & you deserve more...
As for the text, we've all done things like that when we're confronted with a brick wall. I know I probably would have done the same, just learn from it. He ignored it & all of the other promises he broke, just remember that when he delivers the "I'll call ya" & send him on his sorry way...
Hang in there Summer, rest assured that Travis IS attracted to you - he just seems to dig the whole 'mind game' thing & like Enigma said, you're SO not down for that. There are guys out there who'll treat you with the respect you deserve...
When you see him at work be polite, just ignore his invitations... this'll have the affect of him taking MORE notice of you & hopefully he'll quit with this crappy behaviour... from there on the decision's entirely yours...
For now - don't be a doormat, you're too awesome a gal for that :) Keep us posted & keep occupied, I promise, that'll have the desired effect!
--- Sunday, September 12, 2004 - Thanks
Answer by: Summer23
Thanks for all your encouragement and support. I'll try my best to get over him, but it's so hard because I see him at work all the time and this is the first guy in a long time that I've liked who has liked me back and wanted to get to know me better. Something must have changed or he wasn't that interested in the first place. It's just soooo hard. Summer
--- Sunday, September 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Summer,
I'd say don't bother with him (like before) and let him do everything. You did your half already; he should meet you from there. In the mean time, have fun and get know other people because waiting around for this guy has caused you nothing more than pain [like I've noticed]. I know it's going to be hard for you to accept getting over him (if he don't do his part), but that's a part of life. In fact, this happened to me plenty of times and there isn't a person on the face of this planet that hasn't or wont go through something similar.
WHAT MORE CAN I SAY?
If he's idle on this for more than 2 more days (if even that long), don't cancel it -- it's over. Don't accept any of his apologies, etc.. Stay away from him, as it allows you to get over him sooner. You all have to realize that people who are "highly-interested" don't give mixed signals, nor do they make excuses and lie -- they take action. In fact, they'd cancel any "light plans", such as working on there car, to work something out. Unless the car was totally useless at the time, he should've been able to do "something". I'm telling you this because I do these things when I'm interested in someone. What ever happened to this man's "WILL POWER"? I think you get the drift...
Good Luck... And wish you strength reedplex@excite.com
--- Sunday, September 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Summer, I agree with Sam.
This Travis guy has been given enough chances here to go out with you and he has blown every opportunity.
That isn't to say that you're not awesome girl, OR even that he isn't attracted to you, but it sounds like he is playing some mind games and for real you don't need to be down for that.
Don't sweat the text message..... I think the best way to handle things at this point girl is to go on with what you've got going on in your life with your other friends ya know? Ignore his sorry butt the way he has so rudely done with you and watch his interest peak then ugh!
Find someone else Summer, you're to sweet of a girl to put up with this crap.
--- Sunday, September 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
I say give up and forget this one. He's proven that he's unreliable and rude. It takes two minutes to make a freaking phone call. He left his cell phone at a friend's? Why can't he use someone's land line then, or a pay phone?? He always has an excuse, doesn't he? Know what I think? This guy is a straight up jackass. Next time Summer, when he tries to talk to you say, "Oh hey, I can't talk, I don't wanna waste any more of my time with you." Then walk away and ignore him. If he apologizes, fine, but say NO if he tries to ask you out again. This guy is an inconsiderate chump -- there are much better guys out there who won't stand you up.
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