I would like some advice on what to do in my current situation. Here it is:
I hang out with a group of about 7 friends on the weekends (3 guys, 4 girls). During the summer before school started, I began to get feelings from one of the girls, so I did something to find out if she felt the same way. I held her hand, and it seemed to go well and such, she wasn't just letting her hand sit there and what-not, she was moving her ifngers etc. However this turned out to be bad timing because I was going on vacation for a few weeks and I wouldn't have contact with her, so before I left I told her that I liked her and asked if she would want to do something sometime, and she said yes. When I got back I didn't go and ask her to do something right away tho, in fact i haven't brough it up yet because I wanted to try and find out if she still felt the same way. So over the last few times that our group has gotten together I have held her hand a few times, but it didnt feel the same, so I'm not sure if she would still want to do something. She has also been talking to one of the other guys in the group more as well, and giving him attention, but I could be making that seem more than it is because I can be jealous at times. What should I do?
Thanks for all your help, it is apreciated.
-James
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--- Sunday, September 19, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi James,
Man, just relax! I know this isn't "exactly" what you would want to hear but if she really wants you, neither of these other guys will be capable of pulling her away -- nothing more about it. I don't think woman are complex so think of it the other way around. Would you go out with someone you are less interested in, when you know that you're interested in someone else? Don't think so! - especially if they have feelings for you too. I mean c'mon, we all think along those same lines and don't believe it if someone says that they don't because that's just BS.
Now if you know that you did something wrong that she caught on to, THEN there's an exception. But I don't think you did because you would have told us -- am I right? Even if this is the case, you "probably" could win her back IF she likes you enough. For now you've done pretty much all you can; it's time to let her take action. If she play too many "games," or pull some silly stunts, let her go. You heard it all...
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