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Another update for Enigma, Jonathan, Sam, and Emma
By: Summer23
It's me again, Summer. Just giving another update. I know I should leave this Travis guy alone and that I deserve better, but it's so hard to just stop liking him and I'm too nice for my own good sometimes. Also, I love the attention he is giving me and though there are bad things about him, there are things I really like to. So here is what has happened.
So a day after I sent him the text, he sent me a text. He said he was sorry again. He has been very busy and he is having some family issues so he hasn't been in agreat mood. He said he still wants to hang out and he promised it would happen. And he said he hopes I wasn't mad. These are understandable excuses if they are true, but the question is are they true.
So, me being to nice sent him a message back that said that was understandable and I hope things get better. I know I shouldn't have said that, but I care about him and if he is having issues I want him to know I care.
Then I saw him about four days later at work. He was totally sucking up. Giving me this face he does, waving and smiling at me. We talked a little when there was time. He was saying and doing nice and cute things. He was totally flirting. He told a friend of ours that I was the only one who could be mad at him or had a right to be mad at him. He started to become touchy. We took a picture together for a friend of mine. She told us to get close, so he grabbed me and put his arms around me.
So, I don't know what is goig on or how he feels. Saturday night when we standing in a group of people he got a call and he told them to call him back in ten minutes. Then on Sunday he told this other girl at work that he would call her on Tuesday. Now who's to say he will call her because he's said the same thing to me, but if he has the time to talk to other people he should have the time to talk to me.
Even if we don't start dating, which I would like, I would like him in my life as a friend. I want us to talk and keep in touch during the week. Also, go hang out like all of us from work do. I want to get to know him better.
So, that's what has happened. Do you guys have any advice? Probably gonna stay to drop him, but it's so hard.
Summer
Responses to this article:
--- Wednesday, September 22, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Oh Summer! I really was praying that things might work out for you - this must be difficult for you to deal with...
When you have these strong feelings for someone - you do make excuses, it's a fact, I've done it - you turn everything around into something hopeful, something better... but this guy really is playing you & like Enigma, I want to kick his sorry ass if not only to make him see what a great gal he's missing out on :)
I suggest you take a break & cool things. Observe how he is with this other girl & other ladies in general. If he loses what little interest he had in you & chases the next bit of skirt at work ANY decision you had to make in the past will have been made for you...
In the meantime, put yourself first - check other guys out if they come along. No doubt, you won't want to hear this but there are SO many awesome guys out there who'd treat you a whole lot better from the word go. With Travis, you just need to see how things pan out... whether he responds to YOUR lack of interest...
If Travis wants YOU, Summer & no one else - he'll quit with the games as soon as he notices you're no longer at his 'beck & call' and treat you how you deserve to be treated - with RESPECT.
If it's meant to be it's meant to be - just remember it's not one way traffic, sure - you have to put some effort in to get to know a person but if you get the vibes that they're just playing you then you have to get outta there, save your effort for someone who's worthy of it & raise your standards...
I wish you all the best Summer, I know it's tough to "play things cool" but you know if you do & he loses interest that it wasn't ever meant to be...
Take care & best of luck :)
--- Tuesday, September 21, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Summer,
I just want to put my foot in his ass! LOL for real!
Listen girl, to begin with what's up Travis telling someone else at work that he's going to call them too? NOT OKAY! That is IF he want's to date you!
Summer, he is playing games, and there is no way I'm buying that this guy is just so busy that he can't give you a call, GIRL YOU'RE WORTH A DARN CALL okay?!
I know it sucks a lot and I know you were really hoping for something there... but seriously Summer, do you really even want someone like that as a "Good Friend"? Friends don't blow you off or make excuses why they aren't there for you.
Blah! I say ditch him, and find someone who isn't as "busy" as he appears to be, and for real find someone with more sense to keep it on the low for Godsake IF they are telling some other girl they are going to call them ugh!
Good Luck
--- Tuesday, September 21, 2004 - Jonathan
Answer by: Summer23
Yeah, I don't want to be friend's with him. I want more, but if that isn't possible I would settle for a friendship. As of right now I don't think we have either and that is why I want to get to know him better. Yeah if I learned he was dating someone else I would be mad because I don't know where we stand. I haven't heard it from him. He sends mixed messages. I do have strong feelings for him and so that is the problem with just letting him go and getting over it. You do make sense with the "family problems," but I don't think we are close enough yet for him to confide in me. I know I wouldn't tell him just yet about family issues I am having. I feel like I am making excuses for him, but... I don't know?? It is hard to just push him out of my life when I see him everyday I work and have to interact with him sometimes at work. I do want to have a conversation with him, but I don't feel the time is right, but when will it be right? I guess I'll have to figure that out. Thanks so much for listening to me go on and on. And thanks for your advice. I'll do my best to follow it. Summer
--- Tuesday, September 21, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Summer,
First of all, you DON'T want to end up as this guys friend only; there's no way to cover it. I say this because if you were his friend and had to meet his "actual girlfriend," you would go nuts. But hey, he's just a friend so you'll be alright after learning that he's dating someone else (yeah-right). You've posted MANY articles about the problems you have with him so I wont just "buy" that "let's be friends" idea; you really DO have strong feelings for him.
My point is that his interest isn't mutual if he's all in some other girls face, and yours. I mean think about it; are YOU all in some other guys face? I don't think so because all of your energy is going into a guy who don't put enough energy into making ONLY you happy. I don't want to give you a reason to hate me but if "I" had family problems, my girlfriend/wife would be the one I talk to and confide my problems to also -- I'd look to my partner to comfort me and make things better. Am I making any sense here or am "I" just weird?
WHAT MORE CAN I SAY?
Think about it; he can show you more attention than a damn pervert but it means nothing if he gives the same attention to some other girl. It seems as if you've already decided that you're not going to live without this guy in your life in SOME way, so it wouldn't do me any good to tell you to do something I've said before - am I right? But the more you allow him to lead you on, the harder it'll be to let him go, which you're already having a hard time with as of now. Have a "long" conversation with him and tell him how you feel and ask him what he wants; what he honestly want. If there's no avail in that, make the wise decision and leave it alone.
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