i am really curious, i really dont know why my boyfriend doesn't like going to the club or parties with me. does it mean that he doesn'r like me anymore
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--- Monday, September 27, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Sam makes a good point & I agree with Jonathan too. Just going to a club is - in my opinion - asking for trouble. I certainly wouldn't be happy with any partner of mine going to one of those places alone... no matter how much trust we had - I wouldn't figure out why he'd want to hang out with those people without me by his side.
Seriously, people go to pull - sure they drink & dance - but for many the sole objective for the night is to 'get laid' (well, in the UK at least - boy, has our society gone down the plughole!!). As the others have said - my guess is he's just not the 'party type' & that he prefers to do other things with his spare time.
If, after you've talked with him, you find this to be the case - compromise. How about going to pubs instead? As for whether his preferences have any correlation with how he feels about you - that's ridiculous! Just because your tastes are different in this respect - it in NO WAY represents the relationship as a whole. You cannot like EVERYTHING they like can you?
Talk to him & compromise. If it ain't his scene, it ain't his scene - don't go dragging him anyplace he doesn't want to go - chances are he won't be much fun when you get there anyway :)
Best of luck
--- Saturday, September 25, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
As Jonathan says, it is difficult for us to give you advice when you don't supply us with enough information. The best advice I can give you at this point is for you to TALK to him about how you're feeling. Communication is essential in a relationship as it is the key to understanding how both people in the relationship are feeling. Whatever you do don't jump to conclusions just yet, TALK to him about this and see what he says. There could be a number of reasons why he can't go to the nightclub with you! Maybe he has to study, or work? As Jonathan suggests, perhaps you both are different people and he simply doesn't like to party all the time. However just because you both may be different, it doesn't mean your relationship is over -- but you shouldn't party so much when in a committed relationship -- as that alone can cause problems.
Just my opinion.
--- Saturday, September 25, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi babyak,
Didn't supply us with enough information to respond accurately. But from what I hear, maybe you are two different people. He probably aint the part type - which you seem to be. I can say this because I'm not that type of person myself; you definately wouldn't see me in ANY club no matter what. Now maybe sometimes you may be able to drag me into a part, but it really depends.
When you communicate with him, do you ask him these types of questions, as to what he likes to do and would rather not do? Honestly, he probably would have told you if you were to ask him straight up front. I'd say that you have other reasons to doubt his interest in you, since you asked if he likes you anymore -- am I correct? I seriously don't think him "not" going to a party/club is reason enough to doubt someones interest - so tell me what REALLY going on...
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