Ive posted here before, Im still devastated I find myself crying all the time. my ex broke up with me about six weeks ago now. we had a row about a text I got from a previous ex. the text meant nothing but he just dumped me saying he didnt trust me but nothing was going on with that ex I couldnt believe it. we were together for 15 months hes 31 and im 24 and Im his first girlfriend he had never even kissed a girl properly before me. he was very honest about things when we got together. I thought he really loved me he was always saying so. he was scared that I would leave him he kept telling me he couldnt believe that I was with him and what did I see in him. I thought he was lovely and I love him very much.
we talked about moving in together and everything I just cant believe that he would just leave me without trying to make it work. I feel like I meant nothing to him. hes managing without me I bet he hasnt even shed a tear. people dont just leave do they? not when they love someone.
Ive been texting him for about a week and have heard nothing from him. I sent him alittle gift to say sorry I wasnt doing it to get him back. I dont have much money but I wanted to let him know that I still think about him and that I love him very much. I dont know if he got it I heard nothing from him. Im shaking as I type this cant believe hes gone. hes not the best looking bloke in the world but I loved him.
I havent heard from him in a week. Im waiting for my chance. I know hes not going to miss me because I havent left an impression on him. it feels like he wouldnt even care if I was dead. although he has ignored my text messages. it would have been better if he told me to just leave him alone instead of ignoring me at least I would have some kind of answer. I dont know how he can just shut off knowing how upset I am.
Ive lost him havent i Its been too long he probably has someone lined up already to feel my shoes. he spends alot of time on the computer. Im scared he got to know someone on there. how would he have a chance to miss me when there someone else to think about.
Im devastated by all this
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--- Monday, September 13, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Nab, get yourself into seeing a therapist to help you with this pain. You need some more help than we can offer you. A therapist can help you cope with the pain, and it's amazing how much therapy can help and heal.
I don't know why he freaked on you, I don't know what he left you at a moment's notice. He obviously has issues if he can't and won't give you a chance to explain yourself. That alone shows, in my opinion, that he is unstable and cannot handle any real relationship issues. Apparently, your ex-boyfriend is either jealous in a seriously unhealthy way or, lacks communication skills, or, was looking for an easy way out, OR someone else is in the picture. Either way, Nab -- you're better off.
I know that it's hard to cope with this right now, and I understand how devestating that this must be -- but all I can tell you again and again is that it wasn't meant to be. He isn't woth groveling over. You are honestly better off -- you don't want a relationship with someone who is unstable or who cannot work out problems.
Check into seeing a therapist. I don't know what else to tell you -- except that you are going to be ok.
Be strong Nab! You can get through this. Don't let this guy break your spirit.
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