Ive posted here before, Im still devastated I find myself crying all the time. my ex broke up with me about six weeks ago now. we had a row about a text I got from a previous ex. the text meant nothing but he just dumped me saying he didnt trust me but nothing was going on with that ex I couldnt believe it. we were together for 15 months hes 31 and im 24 and Im his first girlfriend he had never even kissed a girl properly before me. he was very honest about things when we got together. I thought he really loved me he was always saying so. he was scared that I would leave him he kept telling me he couldnt believe that I was with him and what did I see in him. I thought he was lovely and I love him very much.
we talked about moving in together and everything I just cant believe that he would just leave me without trying to make it work. I feel like I meant nothing to him. hes managing without me I bet he hasnt even shed a tear. people dont just leave do they? not when they love someone.
Ive been texting him for about a week and have heard nothing from him. I sent him alittle gift to say sorry I wasnt doing it to get him back. I dont have much money but I wanted to let him know that I still think about him and that I love him very much. I dont know if he got it I heard nothing from him. Im shaking as I type this cant believe hes gone. hes not the best looking bloke in the world but I loved him.
I havent heard from him in a week. Im waiting for my chance. I know hes not going to miss me because I havent left an impression on him. it feels like he wouldnt even care if I was dead. although he has ignored my text messages. it would have been better if he told me to just leave him alone instead of ignoring me at least I would have some kind of answer. I dont know how he can just shut off knowing how upset I am.
Ive lost him havent i Its been too long he probably has someone lined up already to feel my shoes. he spends alot of time on the computer. Im scared he got to know someone on there. how would he have a chance to miss me when there someone else to think about.
Im devastated by all this
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--- Wednesday, September 15, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Jonathan couldn't be more right when he says that everyone goes through such situations at some time in life, but I still stand by my advice that therapy is the gateway to emotional healing...
Nab, it takes a big person to go and get professional help when they need it. It's nothing to be ashamed about, nor embarassed about. A therapist can help you cope with the emotional pain and provide some answers that you need -- that this jackass of an ex- boyfriend isn't giving you.
All we can do, Nab, is offer you support and reassurance that it will get better in time. You just have to make that first step, cancel any future "pity-parties" and be strong. You will rise out of this a stronger woman. Make that first step, and call a psychologist or therapist. Therapy works wonders. The healing begins right as soon as you take that step. I promise. :-)
Keep your chin up, Nab. As I've said before, "Sunshine always comes through the rain."
--- Wednesday, September 15, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Right on Sam!
Nab, it's over; you wont receive any advice that can fix this relationship problem from ANYONE --- not even some "counselor." These things will happen and you need to learn how to deal with them when it's your season to face these problems. Like I've said before: there's not a person who hasn't been through similar situations and if they haven't, they will go through it at some point - unless they are lucky. So just think of it as something you are "supposed" to go through a couple of times in life [and hopefully ONLY once.]
Some people may think our advice is lame as it comes -- though in reality they think so because we're not telling them what they want to hear... Good Luck and I'm outta-here.
reedplex@excite.com
--- Wednesday, September 15, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Nab, you need to get some help for yourself.
This guy is gone, the relationship is over... and while I totally understand that you've been hurt and are still feeling the sting, there is nothing more to understand here regarding him or why or how... he's an asshole and you NEED to move on.
Nab love yourself enough to do the right thing for YOU.
--- Tuesday, September 14, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Nab! I want to shake you!
Did you even bother to read my last post? I feel that I gave you some serious advice about you seeing a counselor... because I have left you numerous posts to help you with no thanks at all from you, not to mention that the other regulars have also told you everything you needed to hear... there's nothing else for us to tell you, Nab!
I'm very sorry you are hurt but you need to talk to someone who can really be there for you, hon -- there's only so much advice I can give you through a computer -- go and get some professional help, ok?
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