I dont know what to do its awful my ex boyfriend hasnt replied to any of my messages. I cant understand how he can go from loving me to hating me so much. I never cheated on him and thought alot of him. Im 23 and he is 30 he wanted to move in with meand everything. we had a row and the next thing I knew I was dumped.
I am absolutely devastated I love him so much. He broke up with me just over a month ago and I waited two weeks and then I texted him. I havent heard anything from him. hes never ignored me before I just dont know what to do. even if he sent me a text message to tell me to get lost at least I would know where I stand but just ignoring me its so horrible. if it was the other way around I wouldnt just ignore him., because Im not like that. I have just qualified as a nurse he was always saying how proud he was of me I just dont understand. I have an interview I sent him a friendly text telling him I have a interview but he never replied to wish me luck.
I sent him alittle gift I dont have much money at the moment because Ive been a student nurse. I didnt send the gift to win him back I sent it because I wanted to say Im sorry. he has never had a girlfriend before I met him when he was 28 he said he liked me from the beginning and that when we first met he thought that I wouldnt want to see him again. he said i was too nice looking to be with him. I told him he was being silly and that I loved him very much.
I never believed he would walk away from our relationship.I really believed he loved me. this has hit me really hard I just want him back please help me I just cry all the time just wishing he was here to give me one of his hugs. what can I do to win him back
please help me
Responses to this article:
--- Thursday, September 9, 2004 - Let him go
Answer by: JC from WHK
I know thats very difficult for u but let him go. I really,really know how it feels. But there is one thing which plays a big role here and that is ACCEPTANCE. My dear start accepting that he is gone and there is really nothing u can do because he is already gone, you can't make him come back no matter how hard u try. STOP sending him those text messages because that won't help either. Now its time for u to pick up your pieces and MOVE ON because I think he already has. You have started a good career so start concentrating on it and have fun. I was there once so I know what I am talking about, sometimes it takes very long to get over someone or forget about him but I know you will and can make it. Like in my case I was left because of someone else, I mourned for quite a while but now when I look back I don't have any regrets. What I am trying to tell you here is that things happend for a reason. Another things don't always look at the bright or good side of the person because the healing process will take longer also look at the bad side like bad things he used to say or do to u while you were going out, once u start doing this you'll forget about him quickly. Don't rush yourself,take time because the healing process takes sometimes depending on yourself how you are handling it. I think you have done enough to get him get now its time to get u out of your system completely.
Good luck any progress please let me know, I am here to help because I was once there and I know how it feels.
--- Wednesday, September 8, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi again Nab,
Sweet advice Enigma! I'm wordless. Less is "best". As a matter or fact, you should have been taken this approach - long ago -- before you even started! It really hurts when you put all of your energy into something and get zero results. You did your part, but to no avail. I don't want you to hate me and not take my advice but it's over. I don't know if this guy has the mind of a fickle 12year old or is on some type of "random" off-the-wall medication but he really needs help. There are somethings that you "JUST DON'T DO"; and I'm pretty sure that he's old enough to understand this. He should have atleast responded to one of your messages or gave some type of sign.
WHAT MORE CAN I SAY?
Uhhhh..., Time heals all? I know that you don't want to hear it but EVERYBODY has to take this approach atleast once in their life. You are too nice of a person to even think of dealing with his BS. I know I sound like an a**, but I mean c'mon - we all make crazy decisions throughout our lives, but there is some stuff you "just don't do". (again) What more can I say?
Good Luck... reedplex@excite.com
--- Wednesday, September 8, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Listen to me carefully okay and think about this...
Leave him alone.
I'm not saying that to be mean to you, i'm saying that to you because you've got to collect yourself, pick your dignity up off the floor and stop what you're doing.
You've got a lot going on for you girl, you're now ready to finally get a great career going for yourself, and it doesn't matter IF he was or is proud of you, be proud of yourself!
If you want his attention, then do NOTHING. You've already done all you can do here. Once you stop what you've been doing (because for real it isn't working and it's only making you feel worse) then maybe he will finally get it... that if he wants to play games than he will have to play alone.
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