dont know where to start, every thing is so confusing,,,,,, well, i am from asia and she is( or may be she was ) from South Africa. we met at yahoo room, and that was the start of our friendship, wich end up into " True Love". we had a not-ending list of similarities and those similarties brought us this far that we were planing to get marriage next year. i havent saw her, just a coupla pictures of her and thats all, she used to see me on my web cam. we had long conversation on the phone and we use to send eachother alot of sms everyday. she told me in the starting that she have been married for seven years, and divorced. and i told her that thats ok with me, then after a few moths she told me that after her divorce she have been " raped " and in the result she have a daughter who is a coupla months over a year now. it was shock but i really, truly love her. i never thought much about it and told her that as far as it wasnt her fault so IT'S OK WITH ME. after an0ther coupla monhts she told me that she have two other kids( two boys ) from her marrige( one 13 years old and other 4 years old) i accepted them and told her tht they are my kids now, and i became a father of three kids. and a damn happy one. i have a hell of sixth sence wich never miss guided me in the past, and it told me that something is fishy. coupla moths ago her EX sent me some offlines at yahoo and told me ( he never accepted that he is her EX-husband) to stay away from other pplz wives. and blah blah. she told me it was her EX and using her pc and one of her friends told him about me, and she have tought him a good lesson so he wont dare try to talk to me next time, and he thinks that she is still his wife and wants her back. but she's not intend to accept him back. anyway, there are so many sub-stories, but lets get to the point. a few days ago she told me that she is going to stay with her folks for a month and they just shifted to a new home so they dont have a telephone line yet, so she wont be able to come online for a month, and her cell phone is having problems so she gona get it fixed this week and it wil take a week almost to get fixed so she will be out of reach this week, that night she promised me that she'll come online next night for the last time before leaving for her folks for a month, i waited whole next night but she was no where, her cell fone was off and her home phone not responding, i got a few offline messages at my yahoo from her Ex saying, " leave marride women off", and "She lie to me " then all of a sudden , next day i got a call from her cousin ( i have had a few chats with this cousin of her and he was so supporting for her, afew time she got mad on me left her pc with her id logged in and this cousin came online from her id to talk to me asking me what i have done with her and why she was angry , i never talk to him on phone nor on his own id) he called to tell me that " SHE GOT AN ACCSIDENT YEASTERDAY AND SHE IS NO MORE " and he is using her phones and she told him to tell me that i must keep goin on with my life and i must carry on with the plans for the future( coz she knew that i wont be able to survied without her as i told her many times) i checked all the newpapers of her city on the net and contected by phone to the authorities and a coupla friends of mine there at her city to know if there was any accedent that day, but every source assured me that there wasnt any accident that day. she or her cousin trying to call me again and again to know if i am alive or not i nevr picked up my phones, i switched off both of my cell phones( i have two cell phones) i really dont wana live anymore, but just want to sort out this mistry, that she is alive or dead and if she is alive ( wich most probably she is ) then why she is doing this to me. ????????????? what should i do now, if she is dead then i really dont have any reason to live anymore and if she is alive then what reason she have to do this with me?????? please , some one help me, tell me whats going on with me pleaseeee, for god sake!!!!!!
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--- Friday, September 10, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
You're welcome.
Keep your head up, and be careful okay.
--- Friday, September 10, 2004 - thanks for you time and your advice Enigma
Answer by: jb357357
enigma thanks for your time your spared to read my story, i have put this same situation to anohter site,and got almost same replies from pplz there.link is here under.( if it doesnt work, go to www.lovingyou.com and check a post from "turefalse" its me the subject is "tell me whats going on with me" in the link of "cyber romance") http://members.lovingyou.com/showthread.php?s=95ead75659c63b42dcfe3bd6042e486e&threadid=77802#fastreply every one says almost the same thing you said,i understand things muc better now, thanks to you for your valuable time you speard for me, but still there are many things wich i am confuseda about. if u wana talk to me(ill really apreciate if you do)my yahoo id is jb357357@yahoo.com and gr8mughal1@hotmail.com for msn. ill am looking forward to hear from you soon, thanks, mughal
--- Thursday, September 9, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
JB,
I'm sorry to tell you this but this girl you met is a straight up LIAR.
First of all I understand that you really felt you had or have a connection with this girl, but let me point out to you that you don't know her. All you know about her is what she told you, what she portrayed herself to be.
This girl told you she had been divorced, but there is a guy giving you IM's telling you she is his wife (don't think for a minute you are the first guy to be lied to about this or that you will be the last) her lame excuse that he can't let go of her is bullshit. She is STILL married to this guy or he wouldn't have her password or her ID so get that clear.
Secondly, first she says she has a kid a few months old because she was raped... NEVER telling you she had a few other kids as well until a few months later... come on now, for real big RED FLAG. She is a liar.
Then she tells you she is going to stay with her parents for a month and she won't be able to talk to you in any way shape size or form???? that her cell phone is being "fixed" ooommgggg!! hell nah! cell phones are not just fixed for a damn week, they would have gave her a replacement. She just counted on you being slow on the uptake and she thought she was slick.
My guess, her husband told her she better cut this crap off RIGHT NOW or he was going to leave her sorry ass! She had gotten in over her head with you, making up who she wanted to be or who she thought you wanted her to be, she got caught by her husband and he's had it with her bullshit.
Now she has sunk to the ulitimate in low... having some other idiot telling you she is dead... aaagggghhhh!!!! There probably wasn't even any point in checking the papers for a notice of her "death" because I bet she didn't even give you her real name.
I can gaurantee that this girl will be back online in a short time running this game on someone else just like yourself until her husband gets pissed off again and puts an end to it. Then someone else just like you will be going crazy wondering if she is okay or if she really is dead.
This is a pathetic person JB... You don't deserve to be played with like this.
Please be very careful when you meet ppl online there are a lot of deceptive ppl out there who can be who ever they want to be online and will take advantage of you in a heartbeat and never have a shred of remorse for it.
You got fooled sweetie... doesn't make you a bad person, just makes you someone who wanted to trust and believe...
You CAN and WILL be fine and trust me a lot better off without this girl in your life. She would have only brought you more misery eventually with her lies and deciet. However don't be suprised if she IM's you again at some point with her story of "how she survived" ugh!
You will find someone else... and when you do if it happens to be online... BE CAREFUL! Take things slow... and check, recheck and check again that persons story about who they are, what they do and what thier true intentions are.
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