I'm a 7th grader at ECMS. I really like this 8th grader in my career tech class. We'll just call him anonymous. When we were in Art he was new and was seated next to me. He's super nice, funny and has a great personality. (and im not just sayin that cuz he's hot) when i actually started liking him i told only one person and turns out Anonymous's best friend heard us talkin and told everyone in my 7th period Art class. Everyone started callin me R******lover and crap. People were coming up to him asking him if he liked me and i already SOOO new he was getting freaken frusterated. I so didnt want him to get the wrong impression of me. We went on vacation and now that were back on i so want him to notice me and for once get to know the real me not what the rumor mill thinks. im just so scared to go up to him and just say hi. he's always hangin w/ his best friend and when i wanna say hey his friend reminds him of who everyone thinks i am. and just takes off like nothing ever happened. i REALLY REALLY like this guy and for once i want to be noticed by someone whom im interested in. Please PLEASE help me. Any advice given is NEEDED. Thanx in advance!!!!!
love ya all april
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--- Friday, September 10, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi April,
As far as approaching this guy is concerned, don't do it just yet. If he's shy then it would probably force you to be aggresive -- enough to initiate the first conversation with this guy. If he's not shy, then....? I THINK you get the drift... C'mon, he's gotten enough info to charge George Bush with murder; I mean, didn't the WHOLE class confide your interest to him? Since he know (and he does) that you "are" interested, HE should consider making the next move. The female shouldn't stress too much on these things, especially when the guy know that she's interested. Now if he didn't have a clue, I'd be wrong.
Once he learn how you feel, it would be wise for him to step up, if he's interested. It's not all about how much you like him because in reality you are just infactuated and there are others out there that you'll feel just the same way about. There is his "cue" to make a move, now you wait and see what he does -- that's if he's interested. I'm speaking "reality" here, and not all responses will be EXACTLY what "you" want to hear - but it's the truth. I'm a bit ignorant of his interest so for now we can say it's mutual; so what more can I say?
Good Luck... reedplex@excite.com
--- Friday, September 10, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
April,
The ONLY way to be noticed for WHO YOU ARE is to BE YOURSELF.
Listen, I understand that you're shy and you're afraid of rejection here... but for real, if you continue to allow other people define who you are and tell this guy you like so much who you are... then how do you expect him to get to know April, not what other people are saying?
There isn't any reason to be afraid to say Hi to this guy. In fact there isn't any reason to be afraid to say Hi to this guy and introduce yourself!
Have some confidence here... if YOU haven't introduced yourself to him yet, then by all means do so. Then find things to talk to him about regarding your class or whatever.
Breathe April okay? Just because someone told him you like him isn't the end of the world... just make sure it isn't the ONLY thing he learns about you or see's in you okay?! Show him that you're a cool girl worth getting to know.
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