Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half...and he thought that we needed a break because we haven't been doing the best and we both weren't happy. it's not that i didn't want a break..but im scared he won't want to be with me after it's over. I know that we are really happy together and we get a long good for most of the part. part of me thinks it's my fault because we used to see eachother everyday...and we haven't got a chance to see eachother as much and it made me freak out. it made me sad when i couldn't see him or talk to him, and he doesn't like it when im upset. i felt that he didn't want to talk to me anymore..and he always reassured me that we are fine and that he loves me and thats all that matters. but since we have been on break..i haven't really talked to him. it's not the first time we have went through this..i just hope this time it will be the last time we will have to do this. how can i make him realize that i really love him and want to be with him? i need some help!!
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--- Sunday, September 19, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
I'm with Jonathan, I don't believe in "breaks" either you either want to be in the relationship and make it work OR you don't period.
You said that this isn't the first time you've had a "break" in the relationship and you're hoping this will be the last time... don't count on it. You've established a pattern of behaviour here that has let him know that this is okay with you.
IF your boyfriend was that into you, he wouldn't want to risk loosing you in having these "breaks" sorry but that is just the reality of it.
--- Saturday, September 18, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Celica,
To tell the truth, I don't believe his "temporary break-up" crap. You DID say that when you two are together, you get along well - for the most part, didn't you? The thing here is that no relationship (or whatever you call "that") is going to be perfect no matter how you look at it; this all deals with fidelity. If you were to ask an expert, he/she would say that his little "scheme" is used to hide his low interest --- that or he found someone else who better fits HIS preference. I don't think there are any positive posibilities here.
There ARE some questions we do need to seek answers for, being that knowledge is required sometimes to deal with the problem, but this is something you could have figured out on your own. Maybe there is ONE chance in a million that I'm am totally incorrect, but -- there's only ONE chance of this happening. The least he COULD do is call to see if you were alive or was "still" single and waiting for him. I think you get the drift here too.
WHAT MORE CAN I SAY?
I'm not saying that you should just give up on the guy because I may be totally incorrect; but don't count on it. Buttt... I'm going to tell you ALL the possibilities because I don't want you to end up looking crazy or in pain. It's possible that he is just very mature and is making a "mature" decision. But only you can be sure of these things, being that YOU are "there" and WE are "here." You heard it all.
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