ok. Im in love with this girl and we have been friends for a long time now. She has had about 8 bfs in her life, all of which she broke up because of loss of interest. She knows how I feel about her, and she says that its not me at all, that she just doesnt want a bf at this point right now. She just dates around for fun now, but nothing more happens. The reason she told me she doesnt want to have a bf right now is because she doesnt want to lose interest in him, and then have to break his heart. we are both 16 years old in our junior years of high school.
My question to u is this- why is she being like this, why does she just lose interest like that? Is there anything to do to maintain the interest, will she change in years to come? She says she is willing to give me a chance someday to go out, but my gretest fear is that itll turn out just like her other relationships, all of which lasted about a month each. Although there was 1 which lasted 4 months, but then it was over. So is there anything I can do, is it just because she is young, will she change in the future? she says she wants to get married someday, like around her early 20s, but if she continues doing this to every bf she has, how will tht day come?
thnks
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--- Sunday, September 19, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Anonymous,
Enigma, I totally agree with your last paragraph; completely noteworthy. It's like this: she is interested, or she isn't interested -- end it there. There are no mixed signals in the game of love, unless you play "hard to get." Even in these situations they will make it known that they like you. If they feel they are losing you, they'll lighten up on their little "hard to get" scheme - trust me...
WHAT MORE CAN I SAY?
Leave her alone -- you'll end up getting hurt if you don't; do we all agree? And you might want to consider leaving her alone TOTALLY. That means no communication or hanging around her. It's not a good feeling to be in the presence of someone you really like when they don't possess that mutual-interest. You'll be in even "more" pain if she ask you to meet her new boyfriend. I think you get the drift...
Good Luck... And leave her... reedplex@excite.com
--- Sunday, September 19, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
I'm not going to tell you what I'm sure you want to hear....
When someone tells you they are not interested, there isn't more to read into or anything to analyze... believe them at thier word that they have NO interest in a romantic relationship with you and move on.
She is young, and I'm sure she will grow and change and with any luck mature.
Her telling you that she doesn't want to have a relationship with you because she is "afraid" she will eventually loose interest is just lame... for real whats up with that?! Jeez even if she had ADD IF she was into you to begin with, trust me the thought wouldn't even cross her mind that she might loose interest ugh!
I would advise you to loose interest in her and persue a relationship with someone who IS interested in you.
When Miss thang meets the right guy she won't have any problem with her focus issues... the only problem she may have is in gaining, and keeping his interest in her.
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