A friend that I almose consider my best was going out with a guy three years ago. His name is David. Her name Vicky. Since then they have not spoken. Over the past year however, David and I have developed a close friendship, because we see each other almost everyday due to our occupations. Our friendship is so close I would do nothing to jeopodise it.
Of late, David and Vicky have stared to speak. I have spoken to him about chances of getting back together and he admits he does like her and would love to get back with her. But like me he would do nothing to jeopordise what we have.
I think if he gets back with her we would lose all that we have. This scares me to death. I feel so strongly for him, but cannot be with him for the above reasons. I think we are meant to be. Becasue he means so much I have even offered to set them up.
What should I do?
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--- Monday, September 20, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Liano, Well it seems to me that David still has feelings for Vicky and he is wanting to get back together with her... I don't really understand what you mean by you're worried that you and David would be potentially loosing what the two of you have going on IF this were to happen? Are you romantically involved with David now?
Personally (and I'm sure there are those who will disagree) I would never date my best friends ex boyfriend... I look at that the same as I would my sister and there is no way in hell I would ever date my sister's ex either.
If you have been seeing David and it's more than a friendship deal... I would really encourage you to re-evaluate what you feel you can live with. IF this has been the case and Vicky has been unaware that it's been going on... this could lead to a rift in the friendship with her, and if David and she decide to reunite... like Sam pointed out this could all blow up in your face and have the potential of loosing both friendships.
--- Monday, September 20, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
If things are meant to be, they will work out in your favor. However don't try get involved with David just yet. It sounds like he has your friend Vicky on his mind, and if they want to rekindle old flames -- then that is their decision and not your business. My suggestion is for you to talk to Vicky and see how she feels about David. If she doesn't want to get back with him then there is no harm in asking how she would feel if you were to ask him out. At least you would be considering her feelings in that regards. No matter what, though, don't make a mistake and hurt Vicky by sneaking around -- it may all blow up in your face and you could lose both of their friendships.
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