im currently in a relationship and i would like to end it i think, even though i love him dearly but keeping me from really doing so is thae fact i feel guilty i dont want to hurt him and i feel that if i do he might do something stupid, id rather be miserable thean hurt him it seems everyone ive talked to says i need to get out of it, but i just cant bring myself to do it, i want to give him a chance but i knowif doesnt work i will be saying that all over aain, god im terrified if i do loose him and he was the one fo rme what then? please help!
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--- Wednesday, September 22, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Are you really afraid of hurting him... OR is that you're more afraid to let go of him because YOU don't want to lose him in case things don't work out with someone else?
While I can appreciate someone not wanting to hurt someones feelings when the relationship ends... from what you've said in your last sentence it seems that you are not so much worried about hurting him as you are of loosing him....
It isn't fair to him or to you to remain in a relationship that isn't making either person happy (trust me if you're that unhappy in the relationship he can't be happy either)
So if giving him another "chance" is REALLY what you want because you think there is potential there to resolve issues then by all means speak with him and tell him what your concerns are... BUT if you are thinking of giving him another chance with the idea that it isn't going to work out anyway then you've already set both of you up to fail and you really should let go of him and move on.
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