I have had a boyfriend for about 5 months, prior to this I was in a 3 year relationship. I really like my new boyfriend but the problem is I often think about my ex I have even called him and told him how I feel but because we did not end on good terms he was very mean and cold to me. I am happy with my new boyfriend but I can't stop thinking about my ex and if I really am happy why would I be calling my ex? Is this normal or did I jump into something new too soon. Any suggestions would help. I guess I don't know how I feel. Usually when you are with someone that is all you should be thinking of right?
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--- Thursday, September 23, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi MariaM,
Sam's totally correct. You REALLY need some time (alot of time) away from ANY man as of now. Child, you've just come out of a "3yr relationship!" It will take a good while before you're totally over this character, especially if you really loved him through it all. This doesn't mean that you don't like the "new" guy as much but you have to remember that you're comparing him to a guy you've been with for a good-while. You know him alot better and probably had grown attached to him. I'd say that this is completely normal, as it's capable of happening to anyone -- unless they are blessed with some unknown strange mindset...
Good Luck... reedplex@excite.com
--- Thursday, September 23, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Honestly I don't think you have any business being in a relationship right now. You obviously aren't over your ex yet -- and that's not fair to you nor your new boyfriend to be in a relationship at this time. STOP calling your ex -- it's over, and he didn't treat you right anyway. My advice is for you to take some time away from men altogether, so that you may get over the relationship of your past, and that you grow from it all.
By the way -- you don't need a guy in your life to be happy.
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