Title:
should I take it slow & be friends & give him time
By: gurlie_16
well my mom & dad haven't been doing good lately & it was after I got out of a relationship a month in a half ago & I guess u can say I just got out of a relationshup & I started messing around when school started & I met one guy & I really like dhim but I found out he had a girlfriend & I guess he jsut liked me as a friend because I gave his brother a note to give him and he never called me so.anyways like I met another guy & he had a g/f so I was like fuck it I don't care!I didn't like him ALOT at all anyways.My friend wants to hekp me with math hw & he is a guy btu I am horrible at math you know.!I didn't like him like that but now i just don't knwo what I should do.he told me comapred to this girl his friend was talking to I was REALLY PRETTY!That was sooooo sweet.He stood up for me yesterday & I thought about it yesterday.how do I really feel?I was going out wiht my friends also & I met this one guy that is in a band local one & he just got out of a relationship also.I sorda jsut did & he jsut did so doesn't want a g.f right now.He gave me his work number cause I think IDK.He might live everywhere right now u know.cause my ex did.anyways or might not have a pphon number yet & just got an house u know.anyways so he gave me his work number & I called it to make sure that he wasn't lieing & he wasn't.anyways should I wait for him to be ready for a relationship & just be friends orgo to my friend?IDK even if I like my friend that defended me I know it was really sweet & he made me smile when he said I was pretty.anyways help me out some1!If I waited for him to be ready u tihnk I would have my chance?I dis get his number sorda.work number or maybe it is he just met me so he didn't trust me yet.all I know is I have contact wiht him & IDK if I should wait.
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--- Sunday, September 12, 2004 - me gurlie
Answer by: gurlie_16
I am not despirite for ANYONE trust me if i was I would have a b/f right now.I would be with my bestfriend mike that's obsessed with him cause he tried to go with me & i kept saying no so finally he shutup so I wouldn't go off on him.I am not planning or wanting to go with him!He isn't b/f material in u all know what I mean!IDK my friend said he said he just got out of a relationship & isn't ready for another g/f right not & IDK cause after the concert I was talking so fast saing I don't think he understood but he gave me his work number since I said I don't have aim.Anyways yup that's it we;; I'll try calling him at work!PEACE!
--- Saturday, September 11, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Gurlie,
Enigma's right all the way. Seems as if you are desperate to be in some sort of relationship just to be with someone, for whatever reason(s). It would be wise for you to slow down a bit before things end up worse than before -- trust me.
As for the "band guy" who gave you his cell phone number, you shouldn't waste much time with him at all. Wait a few days and if he don't make any moves, cut'em. I don't care that he just got out of a relationship; if he was really THAT interested, he would have made it a bit easier for you. In fact, he probably would have set a date for that weekend. Guys don't hadle things like woman in these situations. Women are more likely to turn a cute guy down after a bad relationship; and guess what? They usually don't turn down someone they're highly interested in. Now, think about how a man would handle this. Get the drift? I could go on for hour about these things and could pull up tons of article on the subject.
However, you shouldn't be in a rush to be with "SOMEONE". Take your time and choose wisely because eventually you'll get what you deserve. Love "is" great, isn't it? But don't think it's just going to jump in front of your doorstep. Choose wisely and don't take any garbage excuses from "anyone". What more can I say?
Good Luck... reedplex@excite.com
--- Saturday, September 11, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Why do you think you need to be in any relationship right now?
From reading your post, you seem to be looking for someone, ANYONE... it doesn't seem that you find yourself attracted to a certain person for quality reasons, it's more like you find yourself attracted to the IDEA of being with someone regardless if you have anything in common.
While I can appreciate the notion that people would like to have someone special in thier life that is there for them and they can spend time with.... I cannot buy into the idea of finding someone for the sake of saying you're in a relationship.
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