I have a few questions I'm hoping you'll be able to help with. I met this man on the internet, instantly there was a connection of some sort. We shared similar interests, beliefs and dreams. I have yet to meet him face to face, but will be doing so soon, because by coicidence I'm also moving to a town about 10 minutes from him. This move was planned well in advance and has not been affected by him in the least. I am in the middle of a divorce, an uncontested divorce, which I hope to be other with soon. My husband cheated on me and we've spent most of our short marriage apart due to him being in the military, so I wonder if that's why I feel I could be open to whatever God has for me. This man from the internet, Will, is just coming out of a long term verbally and mentally abusive relationship. He doesn't want to be with his xgirlfriend anymore because he's not happy. But still he struggles with letting go because he hates to see this girl dig herself more into the destructive lifestyle she created for herself so he continues to help her. He's told her that he wants to move on with his life and doesn't see her as a part of it, but she continues to look for him for her own selfish needs and then discards when she's done. He feels sorry for her because she has poor health and will come to him when she needs help. He stated concern to me about my weight and the problems he has with that, but more so than that my heart has attracted him and brought an interest of what this relationship can be. Could this be something that really is of worth - something to pursuit? Or is this just a rebound? A way of masking our pain. We've chosen to let our relationship be a friendship and to see where things go from her or if they even go anywhere at all. Can you please give me any advice.
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--- Sunday, September 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi cmcastor,
Enigma's right all the way. Be "very" careful IF you decide to meet this guy. He might turn out to be a TOTALLY different person -- even physically; never know what this sick people have set up. I'm not saying that this guy in anything like that, but for now he's anonymous. I think you'll use "wisdom" and keep things "public" with this guy; atleast until you get to know him better. It's hard to yell when the barrel's in your mouth. BE SAFE! What more can I say? You heard it all already...
Good Luck... and use wisdom reedplex@excite.com
--- Sunday, September 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
CM,
Be careful, be careful, be careful.
Did I say be careful?
While there are a lot of awesome people on the internet, there are also a lot of decietful people out there.
And although I know you feel that you have a "connection" with this guy, really you don't know him except what he has told you. So the story about the "ex" could be just that, a story. Please see a post here titled please help me or i'm going to die.... might put things into some perspective for you.
Don't count on this guy to be your Mr.Right OR even your Mr.Right Now. He is still technically a stranger to you, and unless you've checked, rechecked and checked again his story.... well then it may or may not be true.
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