Okay I have a question? I have been with the same girl for three years. At first we hit it off. Same sense of humor, sex was great and loved to do the same things. About a month ago she kicked me out of our apartment. It was the same time she started a new job. She said we needed space from eachother. So I moved out. After that she would call me on occasion and ask me to come over. This one time I saw her journal on table and grabbed it and read it I know that wasnt right, it talked about a married man with two kids and his wife. How she would love him to come over and then it said he didnt come over again. I flipped out but she told me sometimes girls need to put fanatasies out on paper. Now when i meet with her i can never trust her. Is that fair for me to behave that way to her? She swears she isnt cheating and still calls me all the time. Could it be she's leading me on for security if things dont work out with this guy? Her hours at work also changed and she wasn't home a couple of nights. I do love her very much but don't want to be taken advantage of.
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--- Tuesday, September 14, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi Will,
From what I read, I can only tell you to end it! It's over. I wouldn't be here telling you this if I wasn't 100% certain of this. This woman if really trying to take advantage of you and because you love her you tend to look over these things. I'll bet you've been trying to convince yourself that what know is happening isn't true. And realize that if she's done something once, she's more than capable of doing it again. Now it's up to you to stay and get used some more, or move on. You heard it all...
Good Luck... And heal reedplex@excite.com
--- Tuesday, September 14, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
I am pretty serious when I state that any person who messes with a married family has zero respect from me. Innocent spouses get hurt... and damn, little kids get hurt. It is heartless, mindless, and unethical to have an affair. Period.
She's just "writing" her fantasies down? Riiight. Look dude, I believe that she really IS having an affair with this guy. Think about it. She kicked you out saying she needed "space", and then lo and behold -- you discover that by reading her journal -- she is sleeping with a married man.
For real man, while it was wrong of you to snoop, the lack of trust you had is now confirmed: You know for sure now that she is a liar, a cheat, not to mention incredibly selfish... she is a person who cares more about getting laid with some dude, rather than the feelings of little children and their mother -- and their lives...
So, why do you want to be with a person like that?
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