I met this guy, we hit it off instantly. I started to think things were going so great. But then I got the "I need to talk to you about something" opener. He said he was just out of a relationship with someone and he still has feelings for her because of how much time they spent together. He said they argue all the time, they don't really do things together anymore because they've grown apart, she's bi-polar so she's very moody, they don't share the same beliefs, but he still has this connection to her, he feels he needs to take care of her because of bad health. She's only 23 but is in terrible health, and her own family doesn't help her because they can't stand her. So basically this girl is taking advantage of him, whenever she needs him to help take care of her because she's sick and to ask him for money. When I say sick - she's diabetic, so her sugar level was extremely low the other day and she called stuttering to him and he took her a donut to bring the sugar back up. He told me he likes me and that he cares about me a lot. He said I'm everything that he's been looking for in a woman, but just doesn't understand why he's having such a hard time getting rid of his ex. He's asked me to wait for him that its going to take some time before he can get over her compeltely. I know the girl is sick, I'm not heartless, but it makes it difficult for me. Right now she's sleeping in his apartment because her electricity was shut off - but she had money to go out boozing w/her friends. And because she's staying in his apartment he doesn't want to upset her so as long as she's there we're not seeing each other or even talking on the phone. Please, if you have any advise, share it with my troubled heart.
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--- Tuesday, September 21, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Marie,
DUMP THIS GUY! Don't wait on him to do the right thing for you... Do the right thing for yourself right now and move on.
Listen when this guy says that he CAN'T leave this other girl alone what that really means is WON'T and DOESN'T WANT TO.
He HAD to bring her a doughnut? WHAT? She lives with him because her electricity got shut off *cough bullshit cough*
He doesn't want to upset HER? Well what about upsetting YOU? For real Marie, IF this girl was as bad as all that and he really wanted to get rid of her,he would have already done so and wouldn't be giving you a bunch of lame excuses now why he is doing this and that.
Sorry girl, but when he says YOU are everything he wants in a girl, maybe he forgot to say "Now if you were just bi-polar and crazy, you would be perfect!"
He's an asshole for telling you this crap and actually asking you to wait for his dumbass while he is living with another girl, doesn't see you or spend time with you, and can't even talk to you on the phone? Hell NO!
Marie, make this little arrangement permanant sister. NO more phone calls made to him OR accepted from him. DO NOT under any circumstances see him OR listen to any more of this crap. You're an awesome person girl and there is a guy out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated MINUS the crazy girlfriend that lives with them and all the drama.
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