Kk i have had a bf for about 2 years now, and for about the past month and some he has been way to busy , and has been avoiding me, i havent seen him in a month, and i talk to him like ever so often.. once school started, i met a guy , sweet as can be.. cute, funny, and smart, and he had asked me out. well ever since me and m bf have drifted apart, i accidently forgot about him, and i said Probly to this guy, we went on a date to the movies, and then i had said , yes sure i will go out with you, that night when i got home, i had a message on my answer machine, it was my bf of 2 years calling to say happy thanksgiving.. now im dating 2 guys.. and I really dont mean to be a slut, or any thing i really forgot about my other one, its just my bf of 2 years, flirts with my friends, and asks them out the movies iwth out me knowing and stuff... and i always got so jelous, but ither way, if i dump this realy nice guy i just met, this chick will kick my ass, and if i dump my bf of two years, he will hate me.. what do i do.. PLease help me
Forgot seems kind of convenient. Alhough, it was good for a chuckle. It seems to me you're trying to repress the 2 year guy, who I think you shouldn't be with, but that's all up to you, but for next time, remember that if you're gonna do this make sure you end it with the original person first. Best of luck with your choice
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
I don't buy the 'I forget about the other one' part either Sam ;)
Renn, what a mess this is! You know, communication is VITAL in any relationship & for you to feel as though you're in a position to begin dating another guy when you're supposed to have been in a relationship with another guy for TWO YEARS is ridiculous & leaves me with my conclusion being that you felt this relationship was over because you just drifted apart.
Sam's right though, no matter how dead this other relationship was - clearing things up & straightening things out was the order of the day but hey, it's all shuda, wouda, coulda now!
Where you go from now... make a decision. It doesn't sound as though remaining with this invisible two year guy is an option but you must first sort things out. That done, have fun in this new relationship of yours, just be sure to tell this new guy you want out if you don't hear from him in a while - don't just assume it's done & dusted!!!
Good luck!
--- Monday, October 11, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
Well... first and foremost, you aren't fooling me with your "accidentaly" forgetting about your boyfriend and agreeing to date another guy... come'on dear, I don't buy that for a second. Not to say that your boyfriend didn't deserve it though -- he sounds like he is a pretty poor boyfriend to you and probably does need to be forgotten about. :-) BUT you shouldn't have accepted a date with another guy without talking to your boyfriend FIRST and ending things. You were wrong there. That said, I think you need to decide who you wish to end things with. Boyfriend of two years acts like he just isn't that into you, boyfriend number two I think, deserves a chance because he actually sounds like he digs you. Either way it's your decision, but one you must make fast. You don't like having your feelings played with, right? So don't do it to other people, ok?
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