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Need your help Emma, Enigma, Jonathan, & Sam
By: Summer23
It's me Summer. I need some advice on my guy friend. Okay we have been getting closer as friends, but I think both of us want more. He has implied to friends that he wants me to keep in touch with him now that I don't see him at work anymore.
So, we've talked on the phone, but we mostly text each other. For the last week and a half he has been texting me like crazy. About two weeks ago we went to a movie, nothing happened, but it was fun. About a week ago he was hinting that he wanted to do something, but I never came out and asked, so he finally did. He asked if I wanted to hang out. I said yas and so we did. I went to his house hung out and watched a movie. He gave me a hug at the end of the night and that was it.
He still sent me texts and I saw him in person, but things have pretty much been the same. Starting Saturday there have been less and less texts. He use to text me in the morning to say good morning and at night to say good night. The last couple days he hasn't been doing the good night, but I think I beat him to it. He hasn't sent the good morning either.
Also today we were texting, so I sent him a text asking if he wanted to hang out. He never responded. So, out of routine I sent him a good night text. He sent one back that said I beat him to it and he was just about to send me a text. So he said good night and have a good day tomorrow.
So am I reading to much into things? Should I be concerned he has stop texting so much and stopped the good morning and nights? What should I think about him not responding to me asking to hang out? Should I bring it up again? The have a good day tomorrow, does that mean he probably doesn't plan to talk to me, so he's telling me it now?
Please help! I know you guys give good advice.
Responses to this article:
--- Thursday, October 14, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
So much acclamation guys! I'm blushing here!! :S
Cheers Sam, you da man!
Summer - as always, keep us posted - we're rootin' for ya girl :)
--- Thursday, October 14, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
I'm LMAO here... Kev, I agree with you that Em and Enig both type the same... they are both very nice gals... EM AND ENIG YOU BOTH FREAKING ROCK! Ok, with that out of the way, lol...
My advice Summer -- is to not think so much about this. Take it one day at a time, don't expect anything, and you just may be pleasantly surprised. Have a good time, smile a lot, and be yourself. You can't go wrong.
--- Wednesday, October 13, 2004 - lay it on the line
Answer by: mistified
SUmmer, think of it this way. What have you got to lose? You don't have him now, and if you don't ask, you'd never have him. On the other hand if you lay it on the line, you might get him. I know how it feels. It's the same feeling us guys get before we lay it on the line. Just risk it. You got nothing to lose!
--- Wednesday, October 13, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
crap, yeah you two type the same.. lol my bad, emma enigma, you're all good?! lols
--- Wednesday, October 13, 2004 - Everyone
Answer by: Summer23
Thanks!!! I'll try to have some confidence and go for it, but I don't knw if I can. I don't want to put it all out there unless I know for sure he wants something more as well. I don't want to ruin the friendship if he's not interested. I'll think about it and let you know what happens. Thanks, Summer
--- Wednesday, October 13, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
This is the second time this has happened...
Kev - you mistook me for Enigma as Sam did in the 'Relight the flames' post... okay so maybe our names both begin with the letter E but it puts a big smile on my face nevertheless :D Glad y'all agree with me though!
So Summer, have more confidence, go out there & get what you want!
All you need to do is take a chance...
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Summer!
Emma and Kevin have given some excellent advice...
I'll keep my fingers crossed girl!
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
I agree with Enigma, I mean if I were the guy and I hinted to hang out and you didn't respond, I'd be like well she isn't interested lets not make a fool outa myself. Seems to me this guy is interested in you, but mabe he doesn't know that you are just as interested in him, he's fought a valliant battle to try to get you to respond but you have shown him nothing really worth while.. I mean if you like him and he likes you, just take his signals and do something about it. I mean what are you waiting for, just come out and say it to him, say you really like him, kinda more t hen just a friend, that'll break the barrier and probobly won't make him soo shy. Goodluck, just go for it, ask yourself what do you gotta lose?
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Well, let me start Summer by saying that, texting to say good morning & good night sounds pretty damn flirty to me! Very cute, indeed!
I have to suggest though that maybe you ought to stop over-analysing & if I dare say it - you should take the bull by the horns if you really want anything to happen with this guy! There, I've said it...
It's obvious he's interested in the here & now; why not show him you are too? It's not like it's the first date or anything. Also, the longer you continue being just friends the more difficult overcoming this might be later on... plus, it's just wasting time aint' it?
Perhaps you're sending mixed signals & you don't realise it. Maybe you're nervous, maybe he doesn't like the feeling that you're waiting on him to 'do something'. It's anyone's guess here but you know, so have a little more faith in your instincts.
You should have the confidence to make a move on him when you're next together if you want to. The hug, you maybe could have made more of... I always think, you never know if you don't at least try so make your feelings clearer if you want to have anything with him.
If you like him, let him know - you could be waiting on him forever. Make it easier for him if he's what you want. Really, the ball's in your court :) Text him, call him again - be cheerful & arrange another time, no big deal.
Life's too short to beat around the bush :) Best of luck - just have a little more confidence & it'll all be fine, whatever the outcome.
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