i am 25 yrs old and married someone 18 yrs old. after having a child i tried to control our relationship. i did not respect her as an adult. i treated her badly. after she left me i realize what i did. a little to late. its only been 2 months since but i think that she is dating someone but im not sure. she wont admit to it or to her parents. and her parents love me to death. they think that i am the best thing that has happened to her. but the truth is she is the best thing that has happened to me. how do i prove to her....? how do i let her know....? i just need her back. please help me. i wrote some poems that my family thinks are really good, dam good. but i dont know im not a writer. i dont know if i could give them to her though. please someone help me. i dont know how to live without her.
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--- Saturday, October 2, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
You know, it's always amazing to me how people can treat the person they are suppose to be loving so badly.. set them up to fall down so often, and then when that person finally finds thier voice and says it isn't okay with them and gets the hell out, how sorry they are.
It's sad that it took her leaving you for you to understand what an amazing person she is.. and to see all you had taken for granted.
I don't know if she will give you another chance and as Kev said if you're not really sincere about treating her right if she does then I hope you would just leave her alone...
If you want to SHOW her that you want to try again and you can be good to her and treat her as an equal.. then don't go to her parents with this (because in doing this you are STILL treating her like she's a child not an adult)Talk to HER about how you feel... her parents don't get a say in this.
Good Luck
--- Saturday, October 2, 2004 - hmmm..
Answer by: stiffmeis
well I'd have to say this "you don't know what you have until it's gone..." Now that you don't have her you know how awesome she was, I use awesome very loosly here.. But the thing is you can't make anyone come back to you, even if you think it was meant to be or not.. I know this personally.. Yes you can try tog et her back, and fight for her as long as you can but don't expect that since you love her to death she IS going to come back... Give her the poems, write her a letter and show that you have changed. the key to the entire thing going right is that you really HAVE changed.. If not and it's just an act for a while then don't give her that misery you are going to put her through again.. But when all is said and done, you MUST respect her decision, wether it is to be with you or move on. You can't get mad at her because it was you that pushed her away.. So I wish you luck on your little adventure and godspeed... ~kev
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