I dont know who to talk to. my ex boyfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me in august hes 31 and im 24 and hes never had a girlfriend before. I always thought it was because he wasnt that good looking but to me he was everything I loved him very much. when we first met he told me that he never thought someone like me would be interested in him. he broke up with me becuase we had a few rows but I didnt think that he would break up with me he wanted to move in with me. since we have broke up I know its wrong to snoop but I found his ebay feedback forum and found that he had bought underwear but this underwear was x large in size in a small sizeI thought that was strange. then I saw him on line and he was in a gay chatroom. I dont want to believe this but i think his gay and suddenly went cold. ive only just found this out tonight we have been broken up for two months maybe thats why he hasnt contacted me or replied to my messages he hasnt beem missing me
what should I think
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--- Sunday, October 17, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Nab, this has become obsessive behaviour and I'm not kidding.
You need to STOP.
This guy has made it painfully obvious that he doesn't want to resume a romantic relationship with you, or even a friendship.
It doesn't matter if he's gay or straight.. the only thing you should be thinking is HIS LOSS!
Nab, for real you need to stop with this behaviour it is bordering on stalker.
--- Sunday, October 17, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Nab, you shouldn't be thinking anything other than "it's over"...
I know you must be feeling as though your heart has been torn out of your chest but time is a great healer & to allow this to happen without disruption, you must first come to terms properly with the fact that the relationship is no more...
You mustn't hold any guilt over it; understand that it was nothing you did, nothing you weren't to him... His sexuality is something he cannot choose & looking on the bright side, you should be glad that you weren't strung along, he was honest with you (though you did deserve more than the silent treatment) - he's made his feeling clear...
As for when/if he'll come out - this is something he needs to decide so really there is nothing more you can do other than hold that head high, keep smilin' & trust that you will find someone who's right for you.
Keep occupied, anything to take your mind off what's happened. It will take time but things will get better, just don't torment yourself over something which is well & truly out of your hands, okay?
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