Title:
Help me a girl that i have loved for 3 years!!!
By: hatemenow
Ive liked this girl for 3 years. And the first year i liked her i never said nothing for like 4 months and after all that time i finally asked her out and she said no. Then a week or less later she went out with this other person(i told this person i liked her too. And he just wanted to get some and i wanted her cause i loved her) and i was very upset about it. Now its the 2nd year and i still love her alot and she is still going out with this person until finally she found out he was cheating on her the whole time.(and if your curious he didnt get some) So she broke up with him. And she's been single ever since then. And then now was the 3rd year which is now and a month ago i tryed asking her out again and i told her i loved her but she still rejected me. And i even asked her why wont you go out with me. And all she said was that she just doesnt have those feelings for me. So please help me out i really like this girl i havent stopped liking her for 3 years!!! so please help me, give me advice so this girl will go out with me. And her birthday is next month and i was planning on getting her a custom made teddy bear with a single flower(dont know which kind of flower yet) So please help me please GIVE ME ADVICE HAS SOON HAS POSSABLE.
Responses to this article:
--- Thursday, October 14, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
One more try hatemenow... then, if the response is still negative, pack yer bags 'n move on, that's all there is to it...
--- Wednesday, October 13, 2004 -
Answer by: Jonathan
Hi HateMeNow,
Wait! -- Someone said that you'll ruin a good friendship? Someone with "strong feelings" + someone with "no feelings" = HUGE HEADACHE! Like I've said before: It's IMPOSSIBLE to establish a "friendship" with someone you really like [or love]; end of discussion. The truth is that if she don't ever NOTICE you at some point soon, pack your bags and move to Israel. Being anywhere near her would cause even more severe pain and you know it. She'll probably end up dating every guy throughout your family before you get the drift. You heard it all...
Good Luck... jonathanreed@excite.com
--- Wednesday, October 13, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Sorry you didn't hear what you wanted to hear.
I wasn't trying to hurt your feelings or be "negative" just telling you the way I see it, if you see that as negative... sorry.
I can't tell you "Yeah keep trying to wear her ass down" because I don't think it's good advice.
When someone tells you sorry, not interested... I've found that it means... Sorry, not interested.
All you with what you want to do here... that was just my opinion on it, and still is.
--- Wednesday, October 13, 2004 - Hmmm...
Answer by: Emma
Well hatemenow - initially I would have given the same advice that these awesome people have already given... but it ain't what you want to hear...
Mistified, I hear what you're saying though - to go OTT with the positive advice would turn me into a liar but I'll try my very best to be optimistic...
First off - this girl is being honest with you, she has been all along & I know it hurts for the feelings not to be returned but if it's truly not meant to be then it's truly not meant to be... blah, blah blah... you still reading?
I do think it's worth mentioning that some women are born jerk-magnets at certain ages in their lives; they prefer the 'bad guys', the guys that treat them like dirt & totally overlook the genuine, decent guy who's right under their noses...
Anyway, no doubt you quit reading my response from the second paragraph but you are looking for some positive advice so... even though it is impossible to make someone share the same feelings overnight - I will try to give you something constructive to go on...
I sincerely hope this will be 'one more try' & that the strong resilience you possess won't carry on for any more years should she reject you again... I, for one, hope she doesn't - just be aware of where to draw that line.
Girls like guys to be confident, are you confident about yourself? Honestly, this is probably the most attractive quality (I think) a guy can possess. Be sure of yourself when she's around, whatever you do don't appear desperate - you're not from the sounds of it, you clearly won't take just 'anyone' - you have your heart set on this girl... but having your own life, your own interest makes you far less potentially 'clingy', making any relationship more 50/50 if you know what I mean...
Girls like a chase & less attention will most likely make her think 'hey, why's he not devoting all his attention towards me???' Hence, she's more interested in you...
Making her birthday special is essential I think & your idea of the bear is really sweet - I'd love that! If she can't see you for the sweet guy you are then it's her loss but whatever, she'll certainly feel loved by the little things you do, it's always the little things which show you care - remember that :)
Honestly though, you need to bear in mind that she might not have a change of heart... not that I'm predicting that what's gonna happen - just bare it in mind. You have a lot to offer some really lucky lady one day & if this girl can't see that after your third year of trying then, I'll say it again, it's her loss.
I really hope things work out for you, that she loves your personalised gift & that she has a change of heart.
Best of luck!
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 -
Answer by: hatemenow
please some postive advice not negative please. Just give me postive advice and let me get 1 more try.
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
Yeah life sucks, you can love someone all you want, but your love won't make them love you.. Gotta move on... sry bro..
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 -
Answer by: hatemenow
While what you're doing may seem alright, I've been there, and I've lost a really good friend doing what you are doing right now. It's not worth it. I know you want positive advice but if we were to give that to you, it'd be a lie. The truth is she doesn't feel that way towards you and that's the way it is. Just think of it this way. Friends are forever and boyfriends/girlfriends are not.
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 - No
Answer by: hatemenow
I will NOT give up so please give me some postive advice please.
--- Tuesday, October 12, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
You're not going to like this...
She has turned you down 2x... she has told you she see's you only as a friend... so it's hard to make it more clear than that, without really hurting your feelings.
Persue someone else who IS interested in you. Sorry.
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