Hey you guys. I need some serious help!! Okay, this dude and I were talking for about a year and 4 months. While we were talking the relationship was good until a certain point. What I mean when I say a certain point is that we started breaking up ALL of the time. Some of the reasons why we were breaking up is because of trusting problems and cheating poblems.Now we are not together and I miss and love if sooooo much. I asked him if we could just start all over again and put the past behind us, but he says that he can't. Why can't he? He claims that he still loves me as well, so if I love him and he loves me why can't 2 loving people be together? I also understand that he has another girlfriend, but if he still loves me why won't he leave her alone? I really do need anybody's help. This is eating me up. I have been feeling this way for 5 months.
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--- Sunday, October 17, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
hmm this seems covered so I'll just concur.. I agree wtih the previous posts.. Sorry it isn't what you prolly wanna hear but yeah.. ~kev
--- Saturday, October 16, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
The way I see it is that this gentleman tried a relationship with you, but you two just didn't seem compatable. You two were, as you wrote, fighting and breaking up becasue of cheating and trusting problems. He probably got to a certain point where he realized that this wasn't the sort of relationship he wanted to be in nor wanted you to have.
He has a girlfriend now, and he is clearly telling you that he isn't interested in going for another go. He has let go and now it's your turn.
I understand how hard this is for you because unhealthy relationships can seem like a drug that you get addicted to. Once the relationship has ended it is like going through a rehab's "detoxification" -- meaning that you are emotionally in shock and you now have to go on without him and the relationship. Of course it's going to be hard, but what always helps is for you to keep very busy, read a lot of relationship books, and surround yourself with the support of family and friends. Also, GET OUT and meet new people! You never know -- you just might meet a nice guy who wants to give you the world and then some. That's what you deserve, anyway.
You'll be ok. A new fella is just around the corner. Keep that chin up, and remember that a healthy relationship is one that HAS trust. You deserve that. :-)
--- Saturday, October 16, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
Sounds like he still loves ya like a friend.. wants you to be happy, but isn't interested in giving the romantic relationship another shot.
I know it hurts a lot... but putting things in perspective, there is a reason (a lot of em) why the two of you kept breaking up to begin with... unfortunatly once trust is broken in any relationship it is very difficult to regain.. especially when there is only one party working on it.
He has moved on with someone else... and I know thats hard to swallow... keep things in perspective girl.. know that you deserve someone you trust to have your back no matter what.. and open your mind to meeting someone else.
Good Luck
--- Saturday, October 16, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Lady tee,
5 months is a long time to be feeling this low & I sympathise with what you're going through. It must be very difficult, though you ought to seriously bear in mind that - regardless of how he says he feels about you - he is with SOMEONE ELSE & to me, that should be speaking volumes...
Truthfully, if this guy loved you, despite the problems you had been having he would at least be open to the idea of making things work. Love doesn't just die & since, it doesn't sound as though he will ever be willing to give it another try with you, I see no other option but to move on...
Perhaps he just wants to keep you in limbo, with you thinking he loves you, waiting for the day when he picks up where he left off. That is seriously out of order. You really deserve so much better, I can never say that enough!
I know you love him but don't wait around. Despite what he says, if you love someone, normally you want to be with them. It will take time but you will find happiness again, with someone who deserves the time, gives you respect & loves you, when he says he does.
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