I am confused. I live in one state, and i know this girl who lives across the country from me. She tells me if it wasnt for the distance that there would be something between us. I felt I have loved her for such a long time. Now there is a new girl, who somehow reminds me of the one across the country and i feel i am falling for her. something which i didnt not expect happened. my friend came up to me one day and whispered to me while she was sitting nearby, and said, 'she has a crush on u.' i asked her how she knew, and she told me that she had asked her about me and siad she was interested in me.
so now i feel confused. i have feelings for 2 girls. i dont want to discontinue having feelings for the other one because we have already talked about getting together for college. wat do i do??please give me some advice thank u.
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--- Sunday, October 17, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
I agree too :) You should go for 'girl #2'
I know it's tough & you cannot simply turn your feelings off at will, but the practicalities & possible heartache involved in dating someone so far away need to be taken into serious consideration...
I'm sure this girl feels the same... were it not for the distance... you'd have something going but you really need to live for today, do what's right for now.
Hope that helps, best of luck!
--- Sunday, October 17, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
I agree I mean your feelings for this new girl are more then likely going to grow, and well she's there.. You said you have feelings for her so the better choice would be her.. I mean damn, this is a tough one, but think that things in the end work out. I really dont' know what to tell you but if I were in your situation I'de pick the second girl... goodluck ~kev
--- Saturday, October 16, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
I understand that this is a tough one for you. However, in my opinion you are probably best pursuing girl no. 2. I say this because girl no. 2 actually lives in your area, you are attracted to her, and she has also expressed interest in you. It just seems like the next sep to go with her is to confidently ask her out on a date. As far as you pursuing a relationship with girl no. 1 -- I think it isn't as probable because she has told you that, "IF it wasn't for the distance...", she is telling you in so many words that in a different circumstance (i.e., she lived closer to you) you two COULD have something. However she doesn't see that happening WITH the distance, otherwise she would have thown that on the table, too.
My opinion on long distance relationships is that they DO work, but in order for them to work BOTH people have to have it in their hearts and WANT to do it and make it work. It's a huge commitment.
I just don't see girl no. 1 desiring to do that or move to be closer to you. Therefore, girl no. 2 would probably be best to pursue at this time.
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