Hi. My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 10 months now and we are engaged. We were living in South Carolina together, but i moved to Florida to go to school. I just wanted so tips to help our relationship last. I want to marry him but i am afriad that the ditamce is going to separate our hearts as well. I don't want o ask him to move here because as soon as i finish in 2 years i want to move back with him. Some tips would be great. Heather
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--- Sunday, October 17, 2004 -
Answer by: Emma
Heather,
Kev makes his first point an excellent one. Communication is absolutely vital! Because someone isn't "in your face" it's easy to turn off, not to call so often, not to think about them, but...
If you are in love & actually considering marriage then I'm betting, with a little bit of effort, you will be able to keep the flame burning brightly easily. Love never dies & 2 years, with constant contact is nothing compared to a lifetime together.
Always make the effort, at the end of the day give him a call, if not just to tell him you love him. Write letters, exchange photographs of what's happening but most importantly keep the trust. With love comes trust, I happen to believe that if you love someone then it automatically follows that you trust them, no matter where they happen to be.
It'll be a test, I'm sure you're aware of that already but it shouldn't be too difficult if your marriage plans are serious. Chances are you'll want to be with him whenever the opportunity arises so make plans, give yourselves something to look forward to...
Other than that... just be happy. Don't dwell on distance, have faith - if it's meant to be it's meant to be, no matter how long you have to be apart :)
Good luck!
--- Sunday, October 17, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
well huge key in making it last the two years is communication. I mean if you both have strong communication skills then I'de say there is a really good chance. Also jsut outa curiosity, why did you choose tog et engaged before you went off to school and not when you came back? I mean that seems to me that one of you is insecure of the other, afraid that they will lose the other. I dunno the whole situation or anything but also it kinda adds some un needed pressure to this whole situation. Another huge key in making it last is trust. If you both have complete trust in the other then that is gonna be another factor in determining wether this relationship lasts. goodluck and all I must say is that whatever happens happens. you can't change it, so don't worry about it. ;-) take care ~kev
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