there are three different guys to this story I will try my best to make this as easy to understand as possible.
I went to my ex-boyfriends house for a party this weekend. few hours into the nite, I started talking to this guy I actually like. he wantd to "hook up" with this girl and I told him he was better than that, and he signalded for us to sit down and we were actually having a conversation. Im not sure how it ended but it did and we went our seperate ways...fast forward to a few hours later, another guy friend of mine and I were sitting on the couch. I mentioned I was cold, he goes 'oh well let me warm you up' he put his arm around me and then we started making out. the next part makes me sound horrible and believe me I feel bad about it...well I didnt want to make out in front of everyone so we went in the only available bedroom...my ex-boyfriends parents room. while we were in there my ex boyfriend walked in on us and then immediatly walked back out. a while later we left the room and while the guy I was making out with went in the bathroom I got my things cuz I wanted to leave. well the guy I like who I had the converstaion with was laying on the couch and says to me 'MAN I AM NEVER TAKING YOUR ADVICE AGAIN LOOK AT YOU'
meaning I went and made out with someone when I told him not too?? I dont know why he said that...
anyways so I left and went to the guy who I was making out with's house and spent the nite there *nothing but making out I'm* the next morning I find out that...
after I left, my exboyfriend started punching stuff, yelling and then proceded to sit on the floor in his room and started crying. because I was making out with this guy and stuff....
so the next day I call him up and I asked him waht was wrong. he tells me he still likes me and that what I did was bad. but he isn't mad at me he is mad at the guy I made out with. I told him I didn't feel the same way bout him and he said fine. but I think he may still be mad at me
I didnt think he liked me still like that and now I feel horrible...am I really that bad of a person for doing what I did???
also I dont know if you all can answer this but does it sound like that guy who I was talkin to earlier liked me? cuz why would he say something aftre I came out of the room? I dont know if you all can answer that but please let me know if what I did was bad and if I shold do anything else with tihs situation to make it better.
thank you!
Responses to this article:
--- Monday, October 18, 2004 -
Answer by: Sam
I don't think you're a horrible person, I mean what you did was wrong and totally hypocritical of you, but at least you know that now and you feel bad about it. Honestly, I think you can clear your conscience by writing your ex a letter apologizing for what you did, and leave it at that as a learning lesson for you. Next time, though -- don't go in somebody's parent's room (especially an ex) with a guy and make out there -- you are in someone else's room and you should show some more respect... I mean I don't think you would like it much if some kids were making out and rolling around on YOUR bed in YOUR space, know what I mean? As Kev and Enigma says, what you did was tacky, but you're not a horrible person for it. Let it all be a lesson learned, and don't do it again. Now, stop beating yourself up over it, make your apologies, and move on.
--- Monday, October 18, 2004 -
Answer by: Enigma
I don't think you're a horrible person, but I do think you used horrible judgement.
The first guy you were talking to... It seems that he got the feeling you were flirting with him, not just talking. When he mentioned another girl he liked you told him he could do better.. possible that he thought you meant he could do better, like uhhhh be with you.
Second guy.. don't think for a minute he didn't see you sitting on the sofa talking to first guy (I'm sure he did) then he comes over and one thing leads to another the two of you find yourselves in the ex boyfriends parents room (for real, I've got to tell you thats tacky) ex walks in.. no doubt he's pissed, I would've been pissed too.
The two of you walk out.. how do you know what other people were thinking was going on in that room? First guy says he is never taking your advice again... now you wonder why that is? Probably because you had given him the idea you were interested in him and he could do better YET there you are coming out of a bedroom with some other guy in the house of your ex... sister, this just doesn't look good.
Regardless if you still had feelings for your ex or even if he still had feelings for you... it was HIS house.. HIS parents room, and for real just tacky.
What to do now... well if you've apologised to the ex then just give him time to come around... the other 2 guys... honestly I don't even know if it matters anymore if the first guy liked you or not... he saw you go into a room with another guy know what I mean? So he may not have those warm fuzzies going on for you about now.
Use better judgement next time.
--- Monday, October 18, 2004 -
Answer by: stiffmeis
well seems to me like a sticky situation. well I do think it was kinda RUDE of you to have done that in the bedroom of your ex bf's house. How long have you two been broken up? As of the other guy, you met him for about 20 minutes and well that isn't long enough for a person to know you so how could he like you? I dunno how to answer this but i've been in your ex bf's position, and well lets just say I didn't punch walls, I went to the source of the problem. I'm gonna make it clear that your ex bf is feeling like total shit. I mean he invited you over, then you basically shove it in his face. Are you a horrible person, no, people make mistakes it's how we learn from them that defines wether you are a good or bad person. Let this be a lesson and well give your ex some space for now.. goodluck I dunno if that helped any.
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